I'm way too uptight...help!

This is the main reason my ex broke up with me. I didn't relax around him. We'd have the odd time where we'd laugh and joke, but most of the time I was so uptight. I wanted to relax and let my hair down, it just didn't happen.I wanted to lean over and kiss him (I never did). I felt the urge to jump him a couple times, yet I never did.

I'm uptight at work too, today my manager told me I get too emotional over little things and it has made me analyse my whole life. On my journey home from work on the bus I just sat there, I wasn't relaxed at all. I felt uncomfortable and on edge as usual. I only really relax when I get through my front door and I'm around my mum and Brother.

I have spent many years like this and my love life had suffered a great deal. It always gets to that stage where the guy can't cope with it any longer. My ex was so so patient with me, I fear I'll never meet anyone like him again :frown:

I miss him so much but I know he'll probably never want to be with me again.

So how can I work on this? I can't deal with this any longer.

Reply 1

Savage R3N3GAD3

Just try to relax, or at least pretend to be relaxed, it's very easy.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Savage R3N3GAD3

Just try to relax, or at least pretend to be relaxed, it's very easy.

I try this everyday and I fail each time.

Reply 3

username2284409

I have problems with relaxation as well. The only thing that seems to be helping is meditating and always trying to see the brightside of things.

Reply 4

RainbowKiwi

Slow, deep breaths when you feel wound up. Tell yourself to relax n take a conscious step away from whatever is bothering you.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I have problems with relaxation as well. The only thing that seems to be helping is meditating and always trying to see the brightside of things.

Ohh I forgot about meditation. Will give this a go, thank you.

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Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by RainbowKiwi

Slow, deep breaths when you feel wound up. Tell yourself to relax n take a conscious step away from whatever is bothering you.

Thanks I will try that. Doubt I can step away from customers at work when they drive me up the wall lol

Reply 7

username2284409

Original post by Anonymous

Ohh I forgot about meditation. Will give this a go, thank you.

Let your mind go for a while. Don't push anything. You can watch some tutorials on how to do it properly and how to act when certain thoughts come to your head.