Okay so this is probably a rant/looking for advice if i’m living with people who aren’t very nice people or i’m the problem or maybe a combination. I moved into my house about 4 weeks ago and since then there has been a few things they’ve had to pick me up on. like using loo roll that was one of my housemates (i thought it was for sharing) so i apologised and bought her some more and haven’t done it since, we take turns on cleaning the kitchen and i was a few days late in putting in my shift and mopping/hoovering which i have sorted now though, i also left a jacket in the living room for too long because i forgot to move it, all which i’ve sorted now and apologised for and made good on not repeating. The most recent issue has been that i planned a house party of about 20 friends (i spoke to my housemates about it before but it was quite rushed) i went in one of there rooms and apologised for the rushed organisation as i got carried away since it’s for my 21st bday and was excited. They said it’s fine we just need to have a chat to discuss the details of it so we’re all happy, which of course was all fine. last week i put a message in the group chat as one housemates had gone home for 4 days (so the in person group discussion wasn’t possible) and asked what they wanted to do and it kind of blew up and they said they weren’t comfortable with it due to not knowing the people and the risk of damage and losing the deposit. I said okay i understand the points i just wish i’d know sooner because i’ve already planned it but that’s fine. It was turning into a heated discussion, and to avoid an argument i said okay let’s just cancel the party to avoid the stress. There was some slight tension for a few days, but eventually i spoke to a housemate and asked for a compromise to have a pres instead at the house and make it an earlier night. she seemed fine with it just check it with the others which i was planning on. So i spoke to another housemate about the pres idea and asked for a compromise and she said no and it turned into her shouting at me while i remained completely calm until i couldn’t help but walk away and shouted back, but didn’t name call her because that would just make things worse, i just was like “ your a !!” and never finished the sentence lol. since then i’ve not spoken or seen anyone in the house and iys really awkward. my friend rang one of the housemates earlier because she didn’t want to see her friends fighting to ask what’s going on and apparently it’s a build up of things because they feel as though i’m disrespecting the house and there all frustrated with me. I never wanted to make them feel like that and didn’t realise they did, they went out a few days ago without me and got chinese and today there all going to the pub and clearly excluded me from that too. They were all laughing and getting ready while i’m in my room feeling awful. I’m not saying i’m a person housemate atall and i have done things and corrected them best i can, i’m learning to live with new people! but they also have left pots around and have made mistakes but i don’t think it justifys making someone feel so left out and upset. It’s also worth noting i live a communicable distance from the uni and am questioning if i should of bothered moving out as my main reason was to have fun living with friends and gain some independence but this is currently unbearable.