How should you start something serious with a girl?

Umm the internet is not your friend mate. Everybody here is a virgin. Well 99 percent.

Reply 2

If your truly serious then take things slow as people say. If you have sex with them day one they will think its just a fling.

Reply 3

TrotskyiteRebel

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Original post by Personinsertname

If your truly serious then take things slow as people say. If you have sex with them day one they will think its just a fling.

it's not like that. I dont have sex the first day. I mean say a girl in uni, you see her in a lecture and you talk and exchange facebook, i dont quite know how to take it from there ...

Reply 4

DanteTheDoorKnob

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Take things slow, get to them emotionally, take them on dates, give them a bit of space, don't rush into sex etc

If you avoid the emotional intimacy and just go for sex it's not surprising

Reply 5

Romantic love or a trap to expand the ventures of capitalism* as i call it. Is about mutual friendship. Both parties should participate. Interest in each others hobbies would be a first thing. Going out regularly with them etc. Though im a bad reference im just a idealistic kid with no girls. Advice from a kid though. Maybe the gods will pity yah and give you a serious relationship.

Reply 6

dean01234

Yeah the poster above sort of touched on this, treat girls like you want something serious and be clear from the off that you're not after something casual.

Maybe change up where you're looking, obviously clubs / tinder aren't the best way. Have you tried online dating?

Reply 7

DanteTheDoorKnob

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Original post by Personinsertname

Romantic love or a trap to expand the ventures of capitalism* as i call it. Is about mutual friendship. Both parties should participate. Interest in each others hobbies would be a first thing. Going out regularly with them etc. Though im a bad reference im just a idealistic kid with no girls. Advice from a kid though. Maybe the gods will pity yah and give you a serious relationship.

Love can be a profitable enterprise

Reply 8

dean01234

Original post by TrotskyiteRebel

it's not like that. I dont have sex the first day. I mean say a girl in uni, you see her in a lecture and you talk and exchange facebook, i dont quite know how to take it from there ...

Ask to meet up, go on a few dates. Progressively spend more time with them.

Reply 9

TrotskyiteRebel

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Thanks for your replies guys. I know I shouldn't rush into sex but how should I connect emotionally? Like how should I behave? That's the bit I find difficult

Reply 10

ODES_PDES

Original post by Personinsertname

Umm the internet is not your friend mate. Everybody here is a virgin. Well 99 percent.

Reply 11

Talk about the near future with them. Not 6 months or years ahead. Like maybe a movie coming out soon that you both wanna watch. Establishing a defined flow or future can make it clearer for your partner in what your interested in. If you only use the present as a time reference they think it will be a just now thing.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

Tell her from start you want a serious relationship.

Reply 13

TrotskyiteRebel

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Original post by Anonymous

Tell her from start you want a serious relationship.

it aint that simple. Why should I assume that she wants any sort of involvement with me? That'd put pressure on her if I told her i want to be with her you know

Reply 14

CrazyKittenLady

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Slowly and with friendship just take each day as it comes and don't over think things to much x

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samina_ay