Re: Any tips on being more confident whn going up to a girl?
Okay, so maybe it's not all like that but for some guys the instant it's time to approach girls he turned into a mushy squeak toy. To prevent that from happening you need to retain your dignity. There is a difference between dignity and arrogance, and you'll have to remember that as you work on this issue.
Dignity is attractive to a girl while arrogance is not. Dignity is kind of about respect. It's about respecting yourself without disrespecting anyone else, including a girl that just turned you down.
If she doesn't want to engage with you, that is her choice and if you respect that you can feel good about parting ways.
Don't get bent out of shape if despite your best approach girls are not interested. There could be all kinds of reasons that a girl just isn't interested. The most common of these is that she already has her eye on someone else. When a girl has someone on her mind she really doesn't even see what is standing in front of her, around her, or beside her.
Maintaining your dignity means that you get to hold your head up high when you approach girls and keep it up even if they turn you down.
It means that her response does not indicate in any fashion whether or not you are good enough. If you believe you are good enough before you walked up to her, then you're still good enough when it's all over, no matter what result was achieved.
Dignity is attractive to a girl while arrogance is not. Dignity is kind of about respect. It's about respecting yourself without disrespecting anyone else, including a girl that just turned you down.
If she doesn't want to engage with you, that is her choice and if you respect that you can feel good about parting ways.
Don't get bent out of shape if despite your best approach girls are not interested. There could be all kinds of reasons that a girl just isn't interested. The most common of these is that she already has her eye on someone else. When a girl has someone on her mind she really doesn't even see what is standing in front of her, around her, or beside her.
Maintaining your dignity means that you get to hold your head up high when you approach girls and keep it up even if they turn you down.
It means that her response does not indicate in any fashion whether or not you are good enough. If you believe you are good enough before you walked up to her, then you're still good enough when it's all over, no matter what result was achieved.
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