Want to stop fapping ... any ideas?
I know this might seem like a joke to some of you but I'm religious (Christian) and I can't stop. And it makes me really unhappy and I just feel bad things happen because of it. A about a month ago I was a really long streak but when that ended because of some friend-trauma I have just slipped back into old habits and perhaps worse.
I know the secular amongst you won't see any correlation but I wanna study and get good grades and stuff which I don't think could happen if I am living some "bad" life.
Really stressing out ... just need something!
I know the secular amongst you won't see any correlation but I wanna study and get good grades and stuff which I don't think could happen if I am living some "bad" life.
Really stressing out ... just need something!
First off, try to understand that - at least in the secular sense - the act itself isn't 'bad'. What's 'bad' is when you become addicted to it, which applies as well to anything else, e.g. drinking, smoking, etc. The addiction is the 'bad' thing.
Whenever you get the urge, try to identify what's causing it. What happened before or after? For before - were you simply bored? Were you watching porn (which naturally got you fired up)? Were you stressed? For after - are you addicted to it because of the pleasure that comes after? Do you feel immense guilt immediately after the pleasure fades?
Once you find out the rationale of your habit, try to prevent yourself by addressing the habit directly. If you do it because you're bored, try to find something else to occupy yourself. If you in it for the pleasure, try to find something else that will equally give you pleasure or satisfaction, but not necessarily in the sexual sense. It could be gaming, or whatever other activity. (This, in fact, helps solve the 'bored issue too, if applicable.)
Of course some amount of determination and willpower would be helpful during this process, especially when starting out. Don't fault yourself too much if you break the cycle along the way, just focus on starting and maintaining the next cycle. And of course, again analyse what made you break the cycle, if it happens.
Ideally you should be able to control yourself such that you do not feel 'trapped' by it, i.e. uncomfortable if you did not do it, etc.
All the best.
Disclaimer: I'm not a psychologist / psychiatrist / doctor / whatever, the above should not be taken as professional advice.
Whenever you get the urge, try to identify what's causing it. What happened before or after? For before - were you simply bored? Were you watching porn (which naturally got you fired up)? Were you stressed? For after - are you addicted to it because of the pleasure that comes after? Do you feel immense guilt immediately after the pleasure fades?
Once you find out the rationale of your habit, try to prevent yourself by addressing the habit directly. If you do it because you're bored, try to find something else to occupy yourself. If you in it for the pleasure, try to find something else that will equally give you pleasure or satisfaction, but not necessarily in the sexual sense. It could be gaming, or whatever other activity. (This, in fact, helps solve the 'bored issue too, if applicable.)
Of course some amount of determination and willpower would be helpful during this process, especially when starting out. Don't fault yourself too much if you break the cycle along the way, just focus on starting and maintaining the next cycle. And of course, again analyse what made you break the cycle, if it happens.
Ideally you should be able to control yourself such that you do not feel 'trapped' by it, i.e. uncomfortable if you did not do it, etc.
All the best.
Disclaimer: I'm not a psychologist / psychiatrist / doctor / whatever, the above should not be taken as professional advice.
I have found that if I really can't seem stop using porn I just fap without thinking of porn at all. After doing this a few times it's just not as interesting and it means I do far less of it, and importantly for me, I am not using porn.
So it's not a total victory but it helps. Blocking these sites invariably creates frustrations elsewhere which mean you disable it which makes it even more tempting to search it up. idk
So it's not a total victory but it helps. Blocking these sites invariably creates frustrations elsewhere which mean you disable it which makes it even more tempting to search it up. idk
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So it's not a total victory but it helps. Blocking these sites invariably creates frustrations elsewhere which mean you disable it which makes it even more tempting to search it up. idk
So it's not a total victory but it helps. Blocking these sites invariably creates frustrations elsewhere which mean you disable it which makes it even more tempting to search it up. idk
When I was in the university I didnt have a porn addiction I had games addiction. So when it was the time to pass the exams I used to delete all the shortcuts on the desktop leading to the pc games installed. I was too lazy to open them in the directory folder so itsnot quite true that blocking makes it more tempting. Put some laziness in the habit maybe it will go away.
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