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Am I a bisexual?

Kabloomybuzz

bit curious maybe. what porn you like and what you fantasise about has very little bearing on your sexuality. I'm a lesbian and like straight porn

very true, sexuality is actually more about who you fall in love with, and want a relationship with cheesy as it sounds, I think most people are turned on in a perverse way by things that would not appeal to them in real life

Reply 41

Flossy_

i wouldnt worry about it

how about seeing sexuality from this point of view...

to me, sexuality is fluid. it changes its shape and meaning all the time in life. loads of my friends who label themselves straight have kissed girls before, and i know one of my straight friends has even experimented before. it's just about finding out what's comfortable for you. you dont need to give yourself a label.

if you're gonna experiement, just remember to be safe and all that :P

Reply 42

emmarainbow

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matt@internet

How can, or why do, asexuals have sex? Unless of course, well, I suppose viagra and lube.

It's the mind that doesn't connect - the body of an asexual often works just fine thanks - some asexuals like having sex to please their partners, cos they like the warm fuzzy feeling, out of curiosity or whatever. There are many many reasons have sex *other* than 'because I find my partner sexually attractive'.

But anyways, Anons, I reckon that 90% of the population isn't straight. Most of them are *nearly* there, but most people like a little of the other camp. Also, I reckon there's a difference between sexually desiring someone, looking at someone and thinking they're hot, and wishing to be in a relationship with someone. I have the last one, usually directed at girls at the moment, but it was at boys in September. Tis no biggy. Just calm down and wait and see what happens - I'm also available for a chat if you like. :smile:

Reply 43

emmarainbow

12

Total agreement with fluid, unfixed sexuality here!

Reply 44

Anonymous #1

OP

How do you experiment though? I don't know any bisexuals apart from one of my friends, which would be a bit weird to have sex with her...
So I don't know!

Reply 45

NiceCupOfTea

Any bloke who won't admit that they've even once wondered what it might be like to suck a cock is a liar.

Or unforgivably dull.

EIther way, do you want to be that guy?

Reply 46

Flossy_

dont 'plan' to experiment, cos you cant really plan something like that, it just kinda happens..

i always find at parties i go to, there is the option, btw im not saying go to a party and get laid, cos thats wrong.

you can experiement in other ways that dont involve sex, like chatting to people who are gay or bi (im happy to listen) or to do some research on the net or join a forum where people have the same feeling as you.

lots and lots to help :smile:

Reply 47

halátnost

I find the 'a' before the word 'bisexual' in the title of this thread amusing. Like it distinguishes one from being human!

Reply 48

Flossy_

lol yeh

a bisexual..

'a straight..'

aha

just say bisexual please...

Reply 49

Lord Hysteria

18

Anonymous

How do you experiment though? I don't know any bisexuals apart from one of my friends, which would be a bit weird to have sex with her...
So I don't know!

Where do you live? There are some gay bars around, surely.
I would say go to a gay bar. Find someone you think is hot, or wait to get hit on and then decide if you like that person - perhaps a kiss - take it easy your 16!!!! - if not get out of the converation ASAP.

Reply 50

Anonymous #1

OP

I can't go to a gay bar I'm 16!

Reply 51

Lord Hysteria

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NiceCupOfTea

Any bloke who ...

I think OP is a woman/girl.

Reply 52

Lord Hysteria

18

Oh god, I am so sorry - I forgot your 16 .....

Reply 53

Lord Hysteria

18

OK, well I don't think you can go 'to experiment' - in other words can't have that on your mind.
Just sort of happens.
You meet someone you like, vice versa, and from there see what happens.

Reply 54

Nadinus

1

op, it's very normal. I'm perfectly straight but I have fantasies about girls.

For me I knew because when I was just in a normal situation and I thought about doing stuff grossed me out and I'm pretty sure I'd never actually follow my imagination through.

Doesn't at all make you bi.

Reply 55

NiceCupOfTea

I think OP is a woman/girl.

True, but I was replying to the anonymous 19 year old chap who posted a little while back.

Same probably applies to women but... well, I'm not in the best position to comment.

What with the penis and everything...

Reply 56

Fishermanspie

NiceCupOfTea

Any bloke who won't admit that they've even once wondered what it might be like to suck a cock is a liar.

Or unforgivably dull.

EIther way, do you want to be that guy?

I thought only girls do it.
Not sure why it seems stranger with guys... :s-smilie:

Reply 57

NiceCupOfTea

Not sure why it seems stranger with guys...

I think (now this maybe *******s) that's because we associate sexual feeling more with men. For example, our media is fairly phallocentric (topless lovelies in the tabs, a perky woman on every magazine cover), we sell the idea of men getting off on sexy women and women wanting to be sexy women. So straight is normal, gay is acceptable, a mix of both is still regarded as strange.

We also associate deviant sexual behaviours with men. If your 18 year old daughter hosted a party as a dominatrix (as, famously, that girl did just this week) then we're given a pleasing, if kinky, sexual image of a confident woman in full control of her sexuality. If you heard a bloke hosted a party dressed as... i don't know... whatever a male 'dom' is, you'd think 'hang on, this chap is probably a deviant, best not left with kids'. Because he's breaking the accepted norms of society (and probably IS a deviant, but that's by the by).

Long story short, two girls getting off 'woohoo party time for the red blooded men, lipstick lesbians a-go-go', two guys getting off... a less universally accepted sexy image.

Reply 58

matt@internet

12

Flossy_

lol yeh

a bisexual..

'a straight..'

aha

just say bisexual please...

Nit picking.

Reply 59

halátnost

NiceCupOfTea

I think (now this maybe *******s) that's because we associate sexual feeling more with men. For example, our media is fairly phallocentric (topless lovelies in the tabs, a perky woman on every magazine cover), we sell the idea of men getting off on sexy women and women wanting to be sexy women. So straight is normal, gay is acceptable, a mix of both is still regarded as strange.

We also associate deviant sexual behaviours with men. If your 18 year old daughter hosted a party as a dominatrix (as, famously, that girl did just this week) then we're given a pleasing, if kinky, sexual image of a confident woman in full control of her sexuality. If you heard a bloke hosted a party dressed as... i don't know... whatever a male 'dom' is, you'd think 'hang on, this chap is probably a deviant, best not left with kids'. Because he's breaking the accepted norms of society (and probably IS a deviant, but that's by the by).

Long story short, two girls getting off 'woohoo party time for the red blooded men, lipstick lesbians a-go-go', two guys getting off... a less universally accepted sexy image.

I agree but I think phallocentric is a complete misnomer (generally i mean, not in your own usage)! I know that in this context u are using it to mean "from/for a male viewpoint", but when I think of phallocentricity, all I think of is massive great erect cocks everywhere. Which si exactly what the media (and most men) would blanch at. Probs why deep throating is so popular as porn, because it eradicates the problem of men having to look at other men's dicks when trying to get off.

So, yeah, I agree with ur vp, but i've always found phallocentric a better means of describing "focus on the phallus" which is exactly what the media does not do!

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