Consent

Depends if you said it in a jokey way. If it was a clear "wtf get off me" then yeah, they're wrong. If you said "hey *giggle* stop it *giggle* cut i out *giggle*" then no, it sounds like a joke

Listen, no matter how softly, or "jokingly" your no sounds to him, no means no. End of. He should have stopped. The fact that there are people on this thread saying yes it's because of how you said the no that counts is disgusting. No means no. This guy needs to learn a thing or two about consent and we all need to mature up and stop being so selfish and disrespectful. You clearly meant for him to stop, since you're questioning it now, and even spoke to him about why he didn't, and he had the audacity to say he couldn't tell if you were joking. Okay son.

Lots of people use 'no' in a jokey, flirtatious or teasing way. The idea that you can have a blanket reaction to a word, despite the context, is not, and never has been, a part of basic human communication.

Ofcourse not, but it's a good general rule of thumb unless they state otherwise (in sex ofcourse). Also, it's not any word, or any context, it's a no in a sexual context. Which more often than not means stop. People who say no in a flirtatious or teasing way don't go ahead and post about it online questioning why the person didnt stop. The guy should have made sure everything was okay before going ahead. He sounds like he's making excuses, not to mention how dismissive it is to tell someone the reason you didn't stop was because you couldnt tell if they were serious. Like why would anyone say no to me. Come on.

If I tell a boy to stop kissing my neck and touching my thigh and he doesn’t because he couldn’t tell if I was joking, does this mean they’re wrong?

Listen, no matter how softly, or "jokingly" your no sounds to him, no means no. End of. He should have stopped. The fact that there are people on this thread saying yes it's because of how you said the no that counts is disgusting. No means no. This guy needs to learn a thing or two about consent and we all need to mature up and stop being so selfish and disrespectful. You clearly meant for him to stop, since you're questioning it now, and even spoke to him about why he didn't, and he had the audacity to say he couldn't tell if you were joking. Okay son.

Listen, no matter how softly, or "jokingly" your no sounds to him, no means no. End of. He should have stopped. The fact that there are people on this thread saying yes it's because of how you said the no that counts is disgusting. No means no. This guy needs to learn a thing or two about consent and we all need to mature up and stop being so selfish and disrespectful. You clearly meant for him to stop, since you're questioning it now, and even spoke to him about why he didn't, and he had the audacity to say he couldn't tell if you were joking. Okay son.

Several times throughout him doing this I said “no can you stop” in a serious manner but he didn’t seem to get the message he kept carrying on and it felt like it was never going to stop, he was being rather firm with me too. He then went on to say “are you serious” and I said “yes I am I want you to stop” and he repeatedly said “I don’t know if you’re joking” but nothing about the way I was acting was in a joking way, he went on to text me later that night to say “sorry if I was a bit pushy I’ve never had someone act like that before so I didn’t kmow how to act”