Since I was a young girl, I've always been glued to my Xbox and shooting games. Due to that, I had a dream to become a soldier (this dream is no more, but I've considered it a few times before) and around the time I reached the adolescent age (maybe 13-14?), I discovered Army Cadets.
I would’ve loved to started back then but my local detachment would’ve been in the next town other and my family were struggling financially (we still do but, I’ve been able to research more) so I was never able to take up the opportunity.
Now, I live in my hometown with around 3 detachments (and a 4th one soon to come) but I am hesitating. I did apply to get details for the nearest detachment and I am looking to start next year…but I am still very anxious.
I am 16 years old, quite closed off and introverted. I started college earlier this September and that’s the first time I’ve been in education since Year 10 (I dropped out around December 2016 because of my mental health and a lot of issues). I’ve settled into the environment well but I am still quite anxious and there are certain things I am not comfortable with.
Additionally, I am quite unfit but I’ve been trying to be more active so I am not a complete couch potato when it comes to doing Cadets. I heard they help you improve with your fitness so I hope I won’t fall behind on everything.
As well, I am not so good with people. I don’t think I have any friends who would be interested in joining with me (whether it be because of issues or just simply no interest) and even if they did, none of them live near me…so I’d be joining alone and well…I don’t exactly feel keen on starting conversations.
Since I’ll be 16, I am sure I’ll be training with the younger Cadets (12-13?) and maybe some older ones, but I am not sure if I will be comfortable or even interested? I do really want to try it out though next year!
I am really set on giving it a chance, I am just getting 'last-minute' nerves and need some 'reassurance'. I've given a look at other cadets (air and sea) but I think I would enjoy the ACF the best).By the way, I am not looking to get anywhere too far (especially considering how late I am joining) but I am looking to build my confidence and get myself out of the house even for a hour or two.I won't need to worry about my course as I am doing really well. So, ACF would be a nice thing to do.
So, what do you think? I am not looking to be discouraged but happy to hear all sides. I probably will go ahead and do it anyways but this is just me gathering more direct advice and information, instead of having to surf the Internet.
Trust me if you have issues with your mental health (like i did when I was in the cadets) don't go.
Have to remember that every unit is different, it very much depends on the staff there. Go along to your nearest and talk to them - with a parent, ideally - and decide if you like the sound of them.
As above, going with a family member is a good bet, but if that isn't possible I would just walk in yourself. The start of the year is probably an ideal time to do it.