Rant ahead and need some advice.
So I was always an anxious driver. I started learning to drive with instructor and my hubby. I took around 30 professional lessons and some here and there with hubby. I now feel my anxiety has reduced quite a bit and I feel more confident on road but out of the blue I do something silly(or not upto the standards of my hubby) which takes my confidence to ground zero and makes me think whether should I be on the road or not. Like today- i was driving quite confidently when I came across an intersection. My light turned green and I was going straight ahead and I had the right of way. But because I was coming from this lonely hidden road, the cars turning left(I am in usa) didn't heeded me and came on full speed in my way. So I slowed down quite a bit. One car crossed me wrongfully, I slowed even more to avoid a crash. Then the next one behind this car was also trying to cut me but luckily this car saw me on time and stopped to give me the way. Now during all of this my hubby was shouting on me to toot the horn(to warn other cars from crossing my way) but I was so busy in my mind to avoid collisions that i really didn't pressed the horn but i at least stopped my car.
Now my hubby got terribly mad at me that I am so egoistic that I dont follow his instructions and that I should have known by now that I should toot the horn in this situation. He also said that I was unnecessarily giving the other cars way and confusing them and creating a situation of crash whereas I was just trying to slow down to not collide and yes I would give them way if they don't stop on me even if it's my right of way. Am I wrong here? I have observed I am unable to wrap my mind around his instructions if I have to do them in an instant. I need at least 3-4 seconds to process it in my head. It has created heated situations a lot of time for us. And he is not very patient. After I stopped in the parking, he shouted on me with full anger and pounding multiple times at the dashboard and even almost punched me in the face. And says I am so egoistic to not follow what he is saying and I am dumb. I understand he remains super nervous when he is on road with me because he says I am so unpredictable and wont take instructions at crucial times. But his temper doesn't helps. I have taken enough professional lessons from the last 2 years. I am yet to give my driving test as I keep procrastinating it because of my fear of driving. But I really want to learn as I can't find work if I don't drive. My city has very poor public transport and I have started to enjoy driving too but it looks like a distant dream that I will ever be so independent to drive alone. Pls dont give me degrading comments as I am very sad already and i know i can learn. Thankyou.