Intimacy with my boyfriend not as good as with girls?
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Original post by Anonymous
Maybe you are just a lesbian. Guys dont seem to be your thing...
Im not
Original post by bennyj901
Dont know what is with everyone trying to convince OP is something they keep saying they are not (seems like some sort of reverse conversion therapy crap). Likelihood is you just have had some pretty rubbish sexual partners who were guys. Porn has kind of ruined most people's expectations of sex, guys think you need a 7"+ and can make a girl orgasm every time, and girls seem to think every session of sex is going to be mind blowing (although girls are more realistic than guys, both are guilty of this).
Honestly if he needs to improve just tell him. I know people say they can be in relationships when sex isn't the best, but that never lasts more than a year.
Honestly if he needs to improve just tell him. I know people say they can be in relationships when sex isn't the best, but that never lasts more than a year.
I’ll probably tell him, not sure it’ll change anything though
Original post by anosmianAcrimony
I swear that's just numerically impossible? Half of young men have to be better in bed than the median by definition.
Yes you're right.
What's the term for the value that's half way between the best and the worst? Would you call it par, or something else?
Whatever that is, the vast majority of young men are below that.
And the majority of not so young men are below it as well.
Think of it as men - as a group - being like golfers. Most of them shoot worse than par scores in bed. It's only the professionals or the extremely gifted amateurs that shoot better than par scores. Even then, the pros don't shoot better than par every round.
Where this analogy breaks down is that it's much easier to become good enough in bed than it is to become pro level in golf.
Or think of it as like cooking. The best cooks are MasterChef winners, or have 3 Michelin rosette restaurants. The worst struggle to open and heat up a can of beans. The ones in the middle of those 2 extremes can cook a few basic dishes, nothing fancy.
Imagine if you had the majority of men that were somewhere between the burnt and dried up beans on toast standard and the able to cook a very basic roast meal standard. That's the sort of skill distribution that you have in young men when it comes to their ability to please a woman in bed.
Original post by Anonymous
You are straight... who doesn’t get turned on by lesbian porn
watching lesbian porn =/= having lesbian sex
Original post by Anonymous
I dont think so...I dont see myself romantically with girls
This is why people don’t trust bisexuals.
Original post by Anonymous
This is why people don’t trust bisexuals.
When a straight person has sex with someone on the pretence that they see a romantic future with them, the led-on person says ''wow, what an awful person!''
When a bisexual person has sex with someone on the pretence that they see a romantic future with them, the led-on person says ''wow, bisexuals are untrustworthy!''
THAT'S why SOME people don't trust bisexuals. I really doubt they lead people on any more often than normal people - it's just much more noticed and commented about when they do. Also I don't see anything wrong with OP's post - I think it's completely okay to have sex with people you don't feel romantic about, IF you make that completely clear to them.
Original post by Anonymous
Hmm maybe 
It'd be kinder on him too? There's nothing you can do or he can do to produce that spark. It's not fair on either of you by the sounds of it
Original post by Deyesy
It'd be kinder on him too? There's nothing you can do or he can do to produce that spark. It's not fair on either of you by the sounds of it
I just feel like a warm loving feeling around him
Before we were together I used to get butterflies, I still do but not as much anymore, but everyone says thats normal
The only thing I’m worried about is the sex - I enjoy it because its with him, NOT because it feels good though, and that worries me
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