Guys whose parents didn't show intimacy or affection

Hi guys,

I'm just a bit curious about guys who grow up with their parents not together, living in two different houses but he still was able to spend time with his dad once a week.

In adulthood, would this kind of guy not be able to commit to someone fully as they never learnt what exactly 'love' is as he never saw his parents showed each other any kind of intimacy or romantic feelings?

If his mom was always with different men and had a boyfriend, would he not be able to understand as he grows up that you should be loyal to the person he is with, and he will feel the need to be with lots of other women instead of putting effort into his current relationship?

It's just very interesting how our childhood experiences influence how we grow up and our perception of what love is supposed to look like.

Has anyone been with someone who experienced that upbringing in their childhood and how does that impact on the kind of person they become in their adult years?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

relationship of parents has notning or very less to do with child's future relationship. even such childs think it should not happen when they'll be adults.
then by your logic motherless child should be disrespecting other womens

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous #2

relationship of parents has notning or very less to do with child's future relationship. even such childs think it should not happen when they'll be adults.
then by your logic motherless child should be disrespecting other womens

But isn't it what we see from our parents how we are influenced as they have the most impact on our lives?

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

16

Different people can go through the same thing and internalise what they've been through in very different ways.

The best people, the ones most worth having as a romantic partner are the sort that become better with time, regardless of what they go through.
Put them through hardship and they come out the other side stronger and with the ability to appreciate the good times even more.
Put them though harmony and luxury and they will use that time to work on themselves or work on contributing towards making the world a better place.
Give them terrible role models to live with and they will learn lessons from watching the mistakes of other people.
Give them good role models to live with and they will adopt the good features of their role models.

There may be statistical trends about people from broken homes. But we as human beings can be complex. It's the exceptions - the outstanding people - that you want to look out for.

It's down to you to screen the people that you meet. Look for people that are like a strong tree. The wind might blow them to crazily bent over angles, but they have inner strength in their core that allows them to withstand this, combined with some flexibility. They might go through harsh winters in which they are not productive, but come the spring they blossom and bloom.
Whereas other people, at the first sign of trouble, they fall to pieces.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous #1

But isn't it what we see from our parents how we are influenced as they have the most impact on our lives?

their mistakes also impacts us. we influence from them but NOT ONLY THEY IMPACT US. there are many other people we see and get influenced. sometimes good teachers or friends or obviously social media, movies, dramas many things put impact. you can say he may have a little impact of his parents but every parent wants to teach only good things they have.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous #2

their mistakes also impacts us. we influence from them but NOT ONLY THEY IMPACT US. there are many other people we see and get influenced. sometimes good teachers or friends or obviously social media, movies, dramas many things put impact. you can say he may have a little impact of his parents but every parent wants to teach only good things they have.