finding likeminded people at uni? is it too late
It's coming to end of my first week and I haven't made any close connections. I am quite introverted but am quite pleased with how I've tried to come out of my shell so far. My halls is very large so I find it hard to socialise with everyone at once, especially when everyone seems to have formed their own separate cliques with mostly extraverted personalities :/ Once I get to talking it's alright but the small talk is PAINFUL. I know its barely been one week but it's a struggle when everyone has plans and I don't, especially how I'm not drinker. I have been out but now it's seemed to have slowed down.
I am interested in joining societies and getting closer to my coursemates. I've already met up with them a couple times and they're pretty chill so far but I'm still worried about having to share a flat with people I'm not exactly best friends with. Will other students be best friends/close with their flatmates or will I have hope. It's hard not being involved and I don't want to feel as if I'm forcing myself in. Is it too late to find close friends or can I find likeminded people??
I'm a big overthinker and this is stressing me out
(but please be straightforward and don't sugarcoat)
I am interested in joining societies and getting closer to my coursemates. I've already met up with them a couple times and they're pretty chill so far but I'm still worried about having to share a flat with people I'm not exactly best friends with. Will other students be best friends/close with their flatmates or will I have hope. It's hard not being involved and I don't want to feel as if I'm forcing myself in. Is it too late to find close friends or can I find likeminded people??
I'm a big overthinker and this is stressing me out
(but please be straightforward and don't sugarcoat)
Well I clicked on this thinking you were in your last year at uni, ready to tell you that absolutely there's still time, so I think you know my answer if you're in week one.
I met my best friends at uni in second term, one of them a week before the end of term and we messaged/video called loads over lockdown.
It's definitely never too late! Just put yourself out there, although I know it is tough at the moment with loads being online for freshers. Joining societies really helped me, I joined two of my favourite committees (in the February elections) and that really helped for meeting people and socialising.
I met my best friends at uni in second term, one of them a week before the end of term and we messaged/video called loads over lockdown.
It's definitely never too late! Just put yourself out there, although I know it is tough at the moment with loads being online for freshers. Joining societies really helped me, I joined two of my favourite committees (in the February elections) and that really helped for meeting people and socialising.
Just keep trying but don’t force interactions: you may come across as fake. Same way with a girl, talk to someone (Show your personality) then ask them to do an activity “Are you going to this event...”
Original post by historynerd47
Well I clicked on this thinking you were in your last year at uni, ready to tell you that absolutely there's still time, so I think you know my answer if you're in week one.
I met my best friends at uni in second term, one of them a week before the end of term and we messaged/video called loads over lockdown.
It's definitely never too late! Just put yourself out there, although I know it is tough at the moment with loads being online for freshers. Joining societies really helped me, I joined two of my favourite committees (in the February elections) and that really helped for meeting people and socialising.
I met my best friends at uni in second term, one of them a week before the end of term and we messaged/video called loads over lockdown.
It's definitely never too late! Just put yourself out there, although I know it is tough at the moment with loads being online for freshers. Joining societies really helped me, I joined two of my favourite committees (in the February elections) and that really helped for meeting people and socialising.
ahaa yeah that’s my overthinking getting to me. thanks for your advice, it’s really put me at ease
Original post by Morebalanation
Just keep trying but don’t force interactions: you may come across as fake. Same way with a girl, talk to someone (Show your personality) then ask them to do an activity “Are you going to this event...”
thanks
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