Hello,
I am half British but was raised abroad. I recently moved to the UK for uni and have been finding it difficult to interact with my peers.
I am often invited to go out with them to go to the pub, etc. but I rarely enjoy it because I feel left out. I try making conversation with people, but I almost always end up carrying it, get short answers and no questions asked back. When it comes to interacting with groups, I am talked over or ignored, sometimes they don’t even look at me. Multiple times I felt like people tried to get rid off me and de-escalate conversations. At first I thought they were just simply rude, but I feel it more and more. Why is this and how can I change to avoid it ever happening again?
For more context: I moved to London and the people on my course are mostly 1-2 years younger than I am. Some of them knew each other from before. Financially I am lucky to say that I am pretty well off, although I never show off, boast about anything or act snobbish. I am well-educated, I speak 4 languages and was fortunate enough to have travelled to many amazing places. I have a lot to give and it feels like nobody wants it here. Back at home, I have loads of friends who love me for who I am and consider me popular.
I don’t know what exactly the problem with me is. I honestly feel like I have thought about every single aspect.
However, because of all this I have started to feel anxious and awkward. I feel like people don’t take me seriously, that I am being dismissed or that I have no importance. This makes me want to go into my shy, introverted bubble. I would like to mention that I am NOT an introvert, actually my personality type is ENFJ and I feel the best when I am amongst others.
How can I make myself heard, make others want to engage in conversation with me? Why is this happening now, when it’s never been an issue? Am I not British enough? Why aren’t they opening up to me?