Struggles at home

I started university at the University of Edinburgh in Sept 2020 and since moving my mum has completely cleared out my room and turned it into a room for my three year old half sister and her old room into a study for my step-dad, so now when I go back I have to sleep on the floor in my other sister’s room. At first I was okay with it but now that I’ve come home over Easter I feel so displaced and unwelcome. We only moved to this house in 2017 and I’ve never felt like it is really my home because we moved in with my mum’s new husband and they had a baby that year too, so I’ve always felt quite displaced. Since moving out, I feel more displaced. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Am I overreacting? Why do you think she did this?

Depends how many bedrooms you have. If it’s just them 3 and you and you have 3 bedrooms than you should bring it up. Any less and I think it’s fair.

You're an adult who is transitioning to full independence.

Were you expecting to move back after graduation? Can you stay in your uni accommodation during the holidays? Are you planning to work while you study?

Sounds like space is tight there and you are away at uni around 30 or more weeks per year.

When I went to Uni, I never really went back home apart from social visits. I got work near the Uni for all my studies.

I remember one of my pals going back home during the holidays and her folks asked her why she kept coming back...'you dont live here anymore..'

You dont need to sleep on the floor, you can arrange a more comfortable foldaway/camp bed/roll-up futon cushion that fits in the bedroom or ask if you can sleep in the study.

There was 5 bedrooms (one for me, my baby sister, my other sister, my brother, and my mum and her husband) but now I’ve moved out they moved my baby sister to my room (which is bigger than hers) and made her old room into a study.

I started university at the University of Edinburgh in Sept 2020 and since moving my mum has completely cleared out my room and turned it into a room for my three year old half sister and her old room into a study for my step-dad, so now when I go back I have to sleep on the floor in my other sister’s room. At first I was okay with it but now that I’ve come home over Easter I feel so displaced and unwelcome. We only moved to this house in 2017 and I’ve never felt like it is really my home because we moved in with my mum’s new husband and they had a baby that year too, so I’ve always felt quite displaced. Since moving out, I feel more displaced. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Am I overreacting? Why do you think she did this?

I started university at the University of Edinburgh in Sept 2020 and since moving my mum has completely cleared out my room and turned it into a room for my three year old half sister and her old room into a study for my step-dad, so now when I go back I have to sleep on the floor in my other sister’s room. At first I was okay with it but now that I’ve come home over Easter I feel so displaced and unwelcome. We only moved to this house in 2017 and I’ve never felt like it is really my home because we moved in with my mum’s new husband and they had a baby that year too, so I’ve always felt quite displaced. Since moving out, I feel more displaced. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Am I overreacting? Why do you think she did this?

There was 5 bedrooms (one for me, my baby sister, my other sister, my brother, and my mum and her husband) but now I’ve moved out they moved my baby sister to my room (which is bigger than hers) and made her old room into a study.