I've been on a few dating sites for a while now and have yet to find somebody right for me. For a start, 95% of girls on there just don't interest me whatsoever, they just seem so generic and 'samey'doesn't seem to be much genuinity there. I get messaged fairly regularly but rarely by anybody I'd really like to talk with.
I was curious about how the online dating experience varies between men vs women, and also wanted a little insight into the male 'competition'. I created a quick fake female account, with a few pictures that I found online of somebody who I deemed to be very average looking. Like, she's attractive...but I think the majority of men on the site would find her averagely so.
Anyway, before I could even complete the profile setup, I already had 2 messages. Within 10 minutes, about 5 more. I didn't respond to any or initiate any conversations myself, I just sat back and observed. I set my phone aside and got on with some coursework and returned to the app about 5 hours later to check.
Here's what I had. Countless likes, about 50 messages and as soon as I logged on I was getting another message every few minutes or so. I scoped out the received messages and they ranged from a simple "Hey beautiful x" to pretty long winded and well thought through introductions.
I'm a reasonably attractive male, educated, drive, and I think I have a pretty good bio and I thought the amount of messages I receive on my account weren't too bad, maybe 5 per week or so. Not tooting my own horn at all, just saying. But this...this is crazy. A pretty average looking female and a practically empty bio, and within 5 hours I had more messages than I could possibly ever respond to if I wished to.
It's making me think whether to just pack in online dating because it's just ridiculous. There's barely any point in sending a message to a girl because not only is it likely just going to be lost within dozens of others, but there is so much competition that I really just can't be bothered to compete for a girl to give me attention like it's a ****ing game/sport. I didn't realise how easy girls had it in the online dating game, even if you have no interest in dating you could create a profile and just sit back and enjoy the validation that comes from hundreds of men showing interest and complimenting you.
I really just can't be bothered with it. I'm not suggesting that it's 'unfair', but if that's really how it is then screw it...I'd rather just wait for something to click with somebody in the physical world.