I've been living away from for almost 3 years, and in that time I've finished my degree, worked all the way through my studies both before and after I left home, and have been on several holiday's. (This makes sense when I explain my issue).
Since I was young/in my teens, when I admittedly wasn't the best behaved child, my mother and I would fall out constantly over very silly stuff. But since leaving home and being more independent (I already was before I left, really), the relationship between us has definitely improved. However, there are certain things that she does that I still feel is her way of trying to emotionally control me, or blackmail me into doing what she wants.
For example, during lockdown 1 last year, I moved home for 3 months due to being on furlough from a very new job, meaning my pay was poor and I couldn't afford my basics i.e., food and transport. I then managed to get a new job that meant I could move back to my university city and start earning again, which caused a HUGE argument with my mother whom didn't see the point in me doing this as I was ''doing anything I could just to move out and not deal with her''.. I think she forgot I did it because I needed a wage to survive, not because I was trying to just annoy her?
More recently since everything else has happened and become more relaxed, I agreed to a girls graduate holiday this year. Despite the current issues with travel, my mother seemed fine with the idea of me doing this and I of course told her where I was going, how long for and when etc. More recently, however, she'd felt the need to constantly ask for the exact address of the hotel I'm staying in. Bare in mind as mentioned I have been on several holidays, none of which she has asked for that before. At first I presumed there was a reason for her asking, but she genuinely couldn't give me a reason why other than ''just do as I say and stop causing problems''. Since, she has asked me several times to give her the address of the hotel, to which I have always responded calmly but firmly, and told her unless she has a genuine reason as to why she needs to know, she won't be told. To put into perspective, I'm almost 23 years of age and have lived/payed for my own life since I was 14, even when I was still living at home. This isn't about her needing to know where I'm off on my holiday, this is about her wanting control of every situation possible, and I'm reluctant to continue giving her the satisfaction.
Am I being over-dramatic and should just tell her, or can I hold my ground and tell her she doesn't NEED to know every movement I make anymore?