My ex and I have been together for three years. This week, less than two days ago he broke up with me. I initially left but came back when he begged me saying we could fix things. When I asked him how he could change his mind overnight he told me how all of my friends called him toxic and how he cried himself to sleep realising he’s destroying me being with me he said he loves me but he wants to be single to focus on himself and his mental health.
I obviously cried and begged him to come back but he said I was guilt tripping me saying he cant fall back into the same toxic cycle. We were both toxic but a few days ago he begged me saying this was just a bump that our differences could be solved that three years we accomplished and went through so much obstacles together. He made a TSR thread about me calling me out as abusive without even talking about his own behaviour towards me.
Since breaking up with me he’s been hot and cold he’s behaved posessive and jealous when I even told him some creepy guy was staring at me bc I was crying he said that I’d probably chat him up and creepy guys are my type. He flirted with me the day we broke up saying he can have my female parts whenever he wants when I tried being firm he said he wont have it then. Knowing I wouldn’t like it.
He told me he’d be lucky to be my flatmate at uni and that we’d still hang out but then goes to saying oh well times change. Later that night he says Uno I cant resist ur body etc etc
When I confronted him about his jealousy he says he’ll adjust to this new normal and get over it and told me over time our love would just lessen to platonic love. Which broke me. I texted him why he said he’d never leave me and that his heart beated for me if he didn’t mean it he said he said it bc he did and he doesn’t have to provide a reason to me
I really want him back we promised our whole lives I really think he’s my soulmate we would say the same things all the time he stuck with me through thick and thin
Last night I had a kidney infection without knowing I got rushed to A&E and I wasn’t treating it because I didn’t even pay attention to it . During that time my best friend spoke to my boyfriend and tried to guilt trip him into staying which only pushed him away.
He wants to be friends with me, or wanted to yesterday before I had my infection. When I was at hospital my friend stupidly said that my other male friend who my boyfriend despises was coming to visit me and my ex replied “keep him away” when my friend asked him why my ex replied “well that’s blown everything him being there” and then he replied “I ain’t taking her back then” my friend then told my ex that he’d get rid of this other bloke and my boyfriend goes too late.
Then when I came home he told me he was going to die and he needed to go to hospital before going offline for 13hrs during which I panicked and spam called him I got worried his long covid was affecting his health.
Today he popped up and said he passed out due to alcohol and that he’s now drinking cider he showed me his cider cans he told me he was going to die and how he had mental health issues his whole life and it was never going to get better.
I am trying so hard just to be there for him I’ve told him I can empathise and I’m here for him just like I’ve always been and that I’m his bestfriend he then tells me no one wants to be his friend. I said I’m still wearing his necklace and he told me to wear it to his funeral.
Today he’s been acting all depressed reaching out to a friend who knew him through school I asked for advice, and he said to make him understand you’re there for him which I did I said Ik what he’s doing and I feel close to giving up and he told me everyone gives up on him and I said not me, I said I was there for him and I am the same girl who helped him and he goes nobody can help.
I feel close to giving up I just want him back I read the no contact rule might work. We were so happy less than two days ago he wanted to make it work and although I didn’t I softened bc he is my soft spot I can never stay mad or leave him for long enough I thought he felt the same
Pls what do I do