Boy Problems 🙅*♀️

My boyfriend cheated on me, he got close with another girl, held her hand, had feelings for her etc. Twice. We broke up and he begged me to get back with him. He said he would wait for me. That same day I caught him flirting with someone else. We got back together a few days later but I can’t stop thinking about how he flirted with someone else and cheated. When I bring it up, he gets really upset and asks me why I bought it up.

Has anyone gone through this, if so what did you do? How do you think I should approach this?

My boyfriend cheated on me, he got close with another girl, held her hand, had feelings for her etc. Twice. We broke up and he begged me to get back with him. He said he would wait for me. That same day I caught him flirting with someone else. We got back together a few days later but I can’t stop thinking about how he flirted with someone else and cheated. When I bring it up, he gets really upset and asks me why I bought it up.

Has anyone gone through this, if so what did you do? How do you think I should approach this?

My boyfriend cheated on me, he got close with another girl, held her hand, had feelings for her etc. Twice. We broke up and he begged me to get back with him. He said he would wait for me. That same day I caught him flirting with someone else. We got back together a few days later but I can’t stop thinking about how he flirted with someone else and cheated. When I bring it up, he gets really upset and asks me why I bought it up.

Has anyone gone through this, if so what did you do? How do you think I should approach this?

My boyfriend cheated on me, he got close with another girl, held her hand, had feelings for her etc. Twice. We broke up and he begged me to get back with him. He said he would wait for me. That same day I caught him flirting with someone else. We got back together a few days later but I can’t stop thinking about how he flirted with someone else and cheated. When I bring it up, he gets really upset and asks me why I bought it up.

Has anyone gone through this, if so what did you do? How do you think I should approach this?

“My boyfriend cheate-“ was already enough get a grip and focus on yourself boo

Cheating once would be enough for me to leave. What made you give him the chance to do it again?

That is the ultimate betrayal to most people. Chances are if he's already done it twice he's very likely to do so again (maybe not with you but another person).

Aside from breaking your trust it can also lead to other things such as lowering your self esteem, paranoia, or even catching something nasty from the other females he has been cheating on you with. Which may eventually get you infected!

So yes, discard him like the piece of rubbish he is!

he cheated on you twice and flirted with another girl when he said he'd wait for you. you honestly deserve better

Ditch him. He's broken your trust twice - which is two more occasions than you should have allowed - so you're always going to have these feelings of doubt about him.

And why would he get upset talking about it when he's the one who cheated? That's manipulative and trying to guilt-trip you into excusing his behaviour.

errr tbh, the best decision to do is to just be upfront with him and communicate and to make sure you both have mutual feelings towards each other and then confront him in a mannerly way and open up to his mistakes and that which made you upset if he carries on doing it then best decision is to push ur self away as there is no respect shown in the relationship.

omw to do this now! i know if i ask him how he feels he would tell me he loves me, but he’s lied to me before about loving me and i can’t turn a blind eye to it. thank you for your advice!

lemme know how it goes…

just spoke to him, it all came out. 😞 we spoke about what we didn’t like, like boundaries and I bought up the cheating. He said how can we move on, how can we do things if you keep bringing this up a few year later? i was like who says i will and he said, thats just how i act. he tried to excuse his flirty dirty joke talk by saying it’s just how guys act. however i spoke to him, tried to explain how i felt and now he seems really remorseful. he just seems so upset now. honestly, i don’t know what else to do anymore. seems like he just feels like he’s always doing something wrong and i feel bad for him now

It's good he's showing remorse. But I don't think him palming off cheating as 'it's just how guys act' is a reasonable excuse for me. Unless all his friends are unfaithful too lol... (I'm a guy and never cheated neither have my friends)

It's also not his place to say "what's the point if you bring it up every few years" as he's the one in the wrong. Again emotional manipulation

But yeah you may feel bad now but remember you're the real victim here and don't let the tables be turned on that.