Hi there,
I have spoken about this guy on here before but basically…I met this guy and we were both 17. We started dating and we were together for a year and a half. 1 year ago, his parents told him that they were going to move back to their home country (Spain).
He was adamant he was going to stay in England with me. I had already applied for university and we decided that we would move in together second year. Anyway, in March we went to visit his family in Spain and within a week he literally changed his mind about staying in England with me. I had just been accepted for a uni transfer to live in the same city as him (as he hates the city im at now). He quit his job immediately, quit his contract for his room, completely ignored me, went out drinking with his mates and clubbing, spent over 1k on alcohol and didn’t pay me my £100 that he owed.
I was so confused because this guy had told me he wanted to marry me, have children with me, was willing to work for me. And then he just changed. I cried everyday and begged him to wait a bit first before deciding to move country. He told me that this could of been prevented had I never of gone to University, but I have always found my education was important and he had told me he was never going to move back.
Anyway fast forward to now, and he messages me at 2am most nights saying he knows he’s messed up, he loves me, he wants me to go to Spain with him.
I still have 2 years of my degree left before I graduate. I love my course and if I dropped out now, all my hard work would of been for nothing. Plus, I’d have to learn Spanish, apply for a visa to go over there, and I could do all this and he could meet someone else anyway.
He says that he would pay for everything, our house, buy me a car etc but I just dont know if I believe him.
Anyway this is all happening during my exam period so I just pray I get 40% to pass first year. I didnt go ahead with the uni transfer but Im stuck thinking abt him all day and i feel like i would do anything to have him back, even though he can be EXTREMELY toxic (never respecting me, gives me silent treatment, controls me, & so much more) but if he truly loves me then he will either wait 2 years for me or move back over here to be with me.
What do u guys think? Ive had to explain this very briefly but there were other issues in our relationship too