Struggling to run away

Hi everyone, 3 years ago I decided to come to UK for a job, to earn money so I can pay for my studies. I was a single (not too old) mom so I ask my mom to look after my kid until I come back. In the meantime I met a guy who at first was the most lovely and caring person I ever met… all of this until I moved together with him and his mom and then the nightmare start. He’s keeping me only for money, every month on the salary date he ask me to send him all the money because he’s saying that only him has time to go and do shoppings if I don’t do it he beat me really bad, he ripped a lot of my hair and more. He doesn’t want to work as his mother pays for his drugs and everything as she knows but she supports him doesn’t matter what he’s doing because loves him too much. Everywhere everyone likes his mother but nobody knows what she protects at home… a monster. I was threatened by her to not say a word to anyone. They say to me to be thankful that I have where to sleep. I could go to the police, but I really can’t as he says if I ever do that or somebody will know, he will come after my family one day. They both doesn’t let go anywhere else except work. They never let me go home to see my child and my mother in 3 years as they said who’s gonna pay the rent if I run. After3 years I feel like I burn out I lost my mind and I’m anxious to not do a bad mistake now. I’m heartbreaking because I miss my family for 3 years and they didn’t allowed me even to have friends in this country. When I moved they asked me to delete my facebook account as said that’s better for the mind and on Whatsapp I only have them and my mom. Why I’m writing this post so late today? Because I really need help to run away I want to be home happy with my family and friends and relatives. I checked for a ticket to my country but they price is 898£ plus I will need money for train/bus and some money when I get home for my family. How I can get quick around 1600/1700£? What are others options so I can run away this month. I tried with the bank but no change. Also, I live in a flat and all neighbours I’m sure they heard me screaming and creeping while I was begging him to stop and not him me anymore. I swear to my life and everything I love that what I’m saying is 100% true. I’m disparate I want so bad to leave even today. I am willing to do ANYTHING right now. I’m willing to do anything for ticket money. Please everyone I really can’t ask for help anywhere else here maybe he will not know. I don’t want to stay here more than a month. I lost all my hopes that I will see my kid one day. What can I do?

I hope you're doing okay
What country are you from?

Your situation is hard. Ab*se is scary and isolating. Realistically if all of your family is abroad it is unlikely that he will go after them, don't let his threats keep you trapped with him because they never stop. If no one will loan you the money you could try selling things or picking up extra shifts through an agency (what my dad does). I would highly recommend reaching out to any family and friends you have and fully explaining the situation. Even if they can only offer emotional support that is better than nothing. I would also suggest reaching out to a dv charity (like Women's aid) for advice, the larger charities have specific advisors for immigrant victims. It's up to you if you tell the police because they could question him but not charge him which would put you in further danger. (I went to the police and they didn't do anything). Are you financially in a position to move out (to a different part of the country).

Thank you so much for your answer.
I’m afraid for my family because he’s from the same country like me. I did how you said, I start applying for jobs from agencies as I understand they pay weekly which I really need. I’m thinking when I will get enough money to run, I will have to leave some on the table for him as maybe that’s all he loves so maybe will stay calm. But what I’m gonna do when he will return home and see I’m gone and then he will start calling me and threatening me? He used to do that when I spent too much time at the supermarket and I was feeling like my heart was beating to get out of my body.

Oh no. Tbh most countries lack decent support for dv situations. The best thing you can do is cut off all contact immediately. Consider changing your number and email depending on how dangerous he is as some people make multiple accounts to circumvent blocking. I don't think leaving any money will make him stop being a violent evil person but you are free to try. The most important thing is disappearing as best and as quickly as you can if your life is in danger.

So don’t you think he will come after soon or late? It was impossible to hide my documents and he knows my address from my ID card. Sorry to ask many questions but I’m scared. More for my family. I’m thinking what if he comes at my home one day and do a big s**t in front all my neighbours and everyone?He made me cut off the contact with everyone in 3 years. I don’t know…

Hi everyone, 3 years ago I decided to come to UK for a job, to earn money so I can pay for my studies. I was a single (not too old) mom so I ask my mom to look after my kid until I come back. In the meantime I met a guy who at first was the most lovely and caring person I ever met… all of this until I moved together with him and his mom and then the nightmare start. He’s keeping me only for money, every month on the salary date he ask me to send him all the money because he’s saying that only him has time to go and do shoppings if I don’t do it he beat me really bad, he ripped a lot of my hair and more. He doesn’t want to work as his mother pays for his drugs and everything as she knows but she supports him doesn’t matter what he’s doing because loves him too much. Everywhere everyone likes his mother but nobody knows what she protects at home… a monster. I was threatened by her to not say a word to anyone. They say to me to be thankful that I have where to sleep. I could go to the police, but I really can’t as he says if I ever do that or somebody will know, he will come after my family one day. They both doesn’t let go anywhere else except work. They never let me go home to see my child and my mother in 3 years as they said who’s gonna pay the rent if I run. After3 years I feel like I burn out I lost my mind and I’m anxious to not do a bad mistake now. I’m heartbreaking because I miss my family for 3 years and they didn’t allowed me even to have friends in this country. When I moved they asked me to delete my facebook account as said that’s better for the mind and on Whatsapp I only have them and my mom. Why I’m writing this post so late today? Because I really need help to run away I want to be home happy with my family and friends and relatives. I checked for a ticket to my country but they price is 898£ plus I will need money for train/bus and some money when I get home for my family. How I can get quick around 1600/1700£? What are others options so I can run away this month. I tried with the bank but no change. Also, I live in a flat and all neighbours I’m sure they heard me screaming and creeping while I was begging him to stop and not him me anymore. I swear to my life and everything I love that what I’m saying is 100% true. I’m disparate I want so bad to leave even today. I am willing to do ANYTHING right now. I’m willing to do anything for ticket money. Please everyone I really can’t ask for help anywhere else here maybe he will not know. I don’t want to stay here more than a month. I lost all my hopes that I will see my kid one day. What can I do?

Hi everyone, 3 years ago I decided to come to UK for a job, to earn money so I can pay for my studies. I was a single (not too old) mom so I ask my mom to look after my kid until I come back. In the meantime I met a guy who at first was the most lovely and caring person I ever met… all of this until I moved together with him and his mom and then the nightmare start. He’s keeping me only for money, every month on the salary date he ask me to send him all the money because he’s saying that only him has time to go and do shoppings if I don’t do it he beat me really bad, he ripped a lot of my hair and more. He doesn’t want to work as his mother pays for his drugs and everything as she knows but she supports him doesn’t matter what he’s doing because loves him too much. Everywhere everyone likes his mother but nobody knows what she protects at home… a monster. I was threatened by her to not say a word to anyone. They say to me to be thankful that I have where to sleep. I could go to the police, but I really can’t as he says if I ever do that or somebody will know, he will come after my family one day. They both doesn’t let go anywhere else except work. They never let me go home to see my child and my mother in 3 years as they said who’s gonna pay the rent if I run. After3 years I feel like I burn out I lost my mind and I’m anxious to not do a bad mistake now. I’m heartbreaking because I miss my family for 3 years and they didn’t allowed me even to have friends in this country. When I moved they asked me to delete my facebook account as said that’s better for the mind and on Whatsapp I only have them and my mom. Why I’m writing this post so late today? Because I really need help to run away I want to be home happy with my family and friends and relatives. I checked for a ticket to my country but they price is 898£ plus I will need money for train/bus and some money when I get home for my family. How I can get quick around 1600/1700£? What are others options so I can run away this month. I tried with the bank but no change. Also, I live in a flat and all neighbours I’m sure they heard me screaming and creeping while I was begging him to stop and not him me anymore. I swear to my life and everything I love that what I’m saying is 100% true. I’m disparate I want so bad to leave even today. I am willing to do ANYTHING right now. I’m willing to do anything for ticket money. Please everyone I really can’t ask for help anywhere else here maybe he will not know. I don’t want to stay here more than a month. I lost all my hopes that I will see my kid one day. What can I do?