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47 year old man showing interest?

I'm a 33-year-old woman working in the same office as a 47-year-old colleague who has been displaying intriguing behavior. He is quite chatty, outgoing, and carries himself with a sophisticated posh accent. Despite the significant age gap, he's earned a reputation for acting younger than his age, being vocal, and direct, yet generally likable and friendly. Our interactions began with subtle glances last year, but we never went beyond that. Upon joining the office in January, I discovered we worked together, and although he continued to look at me, we rarely spoke. Recently, I sought his advice, initiating more conversations, and he became increasingly chatty. There was a moment when, wearing a knee-length red dress, I caught him staring, and he seemed hesitant to make eye contact afterward. About a month ago, he became more open, frequently coming to my desk to chat. One day, when we were alone in the office, he shared pictures of his dog, home-grown flowers, and vegetables. Playfully, he even hit my feet. We exchanged numbers, and he sent me pictures on WhatsApp, proving he downloaded the app, and then encouraged me to use Telegram. Since then, he's been finding excuses to talk to me at the office, often using playful terms like 'good girl good girl.' Recently, he started sending pictures of himself in suits from his mid to late thirties. While I complimented him, he also sent a more intimate picture of his thighs and legs sunbathing, which he later deleted, assuring me not to worry. Additionally, he's been inquiring about my evening plans, a departure from his usual questioning about weekend plans, though he never explicitly suggests meeting up. In the office, he playfully tries to hit or touch my feet and even waves whenever I'm near the printer, quickly glancing around. I'm unsure if these signals point towards a potential romantic interest or if it's a hook up situation??
Reply 1
The biggest sign of a connection is that you've both had a birthday in the last fortnight, as it was ages of 32 and 46 in your thread of 2 weeks ago...

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7413263
Original post by Surnia
The biggest sign of a connection is that you've both had a birthday in the last fortnight, as it was ages of 32 and 46 in your thread of 2 weeks ago...

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7413263

So what if the ages are not right. If you can't answer then don't. Always acting oversmart
Original post by Surnia
The biggest sign of a connection is that you've both had a birthday in the last fortnight, as it was ages of 32 and 46 in your thread of 2 weeks ago...

https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=7413263

Romance between Scorpios can be intense and passionate:

"Two Scorpios together will create a bond that's, in a word, passionate β€” for better or worse. Both are wired to let their partner in emotionally and get attached in an otherworldly, incredibly intense way, which can make for an unbreakable commitment."

from https://www.instyle.com/lifestyle/astrology/scorpio-compatibility
In your last thread 2 weeks ago you seemed confident he was in love with you, you also said you were 32 and 46.
Reply 5
Live for the moment, generally the best way in dating
Assuming this is all true I would say in such a scenario he is most likely attracted to you. However you must understand that for a man in such an office environment it is really difficult to 'make a move' as it were. Basically a lot of guys in the workplace particularly the office environment are sh*t scared of complaints of 'harassment' well any decent ones are. The ones that aren't just don't plain care and will just steamroll right in. Anyway, hence the beating around the bush that ensues while the guy tries to see if there is someway to negotiate he's way to a date with accusations and being fired from his job.

So it depends if you are interested in him? If you are not bare in mind the poor chap has some form of a life that might still be worth living and likely needs that job to pay the bills. So the nice thing to do is to let him know subtly that you aren't up for relationships at the moment and if necessary distance him in the workplace if it makes it easier for you both. If you are interested in him then suggest a casual meet up during lunch or after work. It will be way easier for you to do this than him as basically guys rarely ever make formal complaints about females coming onto them and even if they did they tend not to be taken that seriously unless the female is basically relentlessly hounding the poor guy without respite when he clearly doesn't wish for her.
Reply 7
Original post by BlueEyesHypnotiz
So what if the ages are not right. If you can't answer then don't. Always acting oversmart

If you can't remember your own age, how can we trust the rest of the details?

What did he say when you asked him if it's a potential romantic interest or a hook up situation? I mean, you have asked, haven't you, as you are both mature adults, especially at 32 33 and 46 47?
Original post by Anonymous #1
Assuming this is all true I would say in such a scenario he is most likely attracted to you. However you must understand that for a man in such an office environment it is really difficult to 'make a move' as it were. Basically a lot of guys in the workplace particularly the office environment are sh*t scared of complaints of 'harassment' well any decent ones are. The ones that aren't just don't plain care and will just steamroll right in. Anyway, hence the beating around the bush that ensues while the guy tries to see if there is someway to negotiate he's way to a date with accusations and being fired from his job.

So it depends if you are interested in him? If you are not bare in mind the poor chap has some form of a life that might still be worth living and likely needs that job to pay the bills. So the nice thing to do is to let him know subtly that you aren't up for relationships at the moment and if necessary distance him in the workplace if it makes it easier for you both. If you are interested in him then suggest a casual meet up during lunch or after work. It will be way easier for you to do this than him as basically guys rarely ever make formal complaints about females coming onto them and even if they did they tend not to be taken that seriously unless the female is basically relentlessly hounding the poor guy without respite when he clearly doesn't wish for her.

I am interested in him but he doesn't say anything nor says he's free so how do I ask
Original post by BlueEyesHypnotiz
I am interested in him but he doesn't say anything nor says he's free so how do I ask

Just keep it simple...

Next time you're chatting to him, steer the conversation towards social things in general... and when appropriate, just say something along the lines of:- "There's a new bar down George Street, I've heard it's supposed to be XYZ, we should check it out sometime after work or something. "

Job done πŸ™‚
Original post by Old Skool Freak
Just keep it simple...

Next time you're chatting to him, steer the conversation towards social things in general... and when appropriate, just say something along the lines of:- "There's a new bar down George Street, I've heard it's supposed to be XYZ, we should check it out sometime after work or something. "

Job done πŸ™‚

I don't know if he likes me or not. He is upset now because last night it was 00.02 whilst we were chatting and the topic came to get to bed and he said I'm already in bed and I said no I mean sleep 😴
He didn't reply or react to it.

Then today he didn't message me at all and I sent him a food pic and he said nice enjoy and thumbs up and then I said it's an old pic and I sent it to him since he likes food and he only reacted with thumbs up.

He's now grumpy

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