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Feeling lonely at kings

I have only been at kings for two months and I don’t feel like my social situation has changed. I met so many people but they are just acquaintances at best and haven’t really gotten any close friends or even a consistent social circle to go out with. I have tried joining societies but it feels the same where everyone I meet feels temporary. My flat is abysmal as it’s only three person and we all keep to ourselves, my accom in general is very quiet and not social so I have been having a miserable time for the past month with nothing to do. I don’t know if I should drop out and reapply to another uni as I can barely deal with the bad social life let alone the work.
However I’m scared that if I do reapply it might not be any better than what I have now and idk if it’s normal to not have proper friends by two months. But I’m worried that if I stay for the year then I would have missed my chance to reapply within that same year and then end up waiting a whole year and I will be in even more debt.
This is honestly driving me towards depression with this much thinking and pressure :/
Original post by Anonymous #1
I have only been at kings for two months and I don’t feel like my social situation has changed. I met so many people but they are just acquaintances at best and haven’t really gotten any close friends or even a consistent social circle to go out with. I have tried joining societies but it feels the same where everyone I meet feels temporary. My flat is abysmal as it’s only three person and we all keep to ourselves, my accom in general is very quiet and not social so I have been having a miserable time for the past month with nothing to do. I don’t know if I should drop out and reapply to another uni as I can barely deal with the bad social life let alone the work.
However I’m scared that if I do reapply it might not be any better than what I have now and idk if it’s normal to not have proper friends by two months. But I’m worried that if I stay for the year then I would have missed my chance to reapply within that same year and then end up waiting a whole year and I will be in even more debt.
This is honestly driving me towards depression with this much thinking and pressure :/

It’s ok

Im at Kings and have hated it here too
Its very hard financially, mentally and emotionally sometimes
ive just started using escorts on the low every now and then
Original post by Anonymous #1
I have only been at kings for two months and I don’t feel like my social situation has changed. I met so many people but they are just acquaintances at best and haven’t really gotten any close friends or even a consistent social circle to go out with. I have tried joining societies but it feels the same where everyone I meet feels temporary. My flat is abysmal as it’s only three person and we all keep to ourselves, my accom in general is very quiet and not social so I have been having a miserable time for the past month with nothing to do. I don’t know if I should drop out and reapply to another uni as I can barely deal with the bad social life let alone the work.
However I’m scared that if I do reapply it might not be any better than what I have now and idk if it’s normal to not have proper friends by two months. But I’m worried that if I stay for the year then I would have missed my chance to reapply within that same year and then end up waiting a whole year and I will be in even more debt.
This is honestly driving me towards depression with this much thinking and pressure :/

university can feel like prison sometimes
Original post by Anonymous #1
I have only been at kings for two months and I don’t feel like my social situation has changed. I met so many people but they are just acquaintances at best and haven’t really gotten any close friends or even a consistent social circle to go out with. I have tried joining societies but it feels the same where everyone I meet feels temporary. My flat is abysmal as it’s only three person and we all keep to ourselves, my accom in general is very quiet and not social so I have been having a miserable time for the past month with nothing to do. I don’t know if I should drop out and reapply to another uni as I can barely deal with the bad social life let alone the work.
However I’m scared that if I do reapply it might not be any better than what I have now and idk if it’s normal to not have proper friends by two months. But I’m worried that if I stay for the year then I would have missed my chance to reapply within that same year and then end up waiting a whole year and I will be in even more debt.
This is honestly driving me towards depression with this much thinking and pressure :/

Hey! I felt similar when I was a student, I have always found the aspect of making friends incredibly hard and daunting. It's great that you've tried joining some societies, you've definitely been putting in the effort and trying your best to make strong connections so that's all you can ask of yourself. Don't put lots of pressure on yourself though, because two months is a very short period of time, you have so much time to meet new people and form stronger bonds, so don't worry! It doesn't happen overnight for everyone. I'd say just to keep doing as you're doing, attending events, see if there's any upcoming student union trips, look into volunteering work, think about becoming a student ambassador maybe? All great ways of meeting new people.

With your flatmates, could you try organise a small get-together like cooking a meal together, going for coffee, go for a walk? Do you have a board game you can put out and suggest you all play?

In terms of reapplying to another university, it's a big decision so don't rush into it, I'd suggest speaking to the support services at your university and get some guidance and help from them. Please also reach out to your university mental health support services if you are feeling depressed, and keep in regular contact with your loved ones. It's a real positive that you've reached out on here and opened up about how you're feeling. University is a real journey of feeling up and down, so just take it day by day, one step at a time, you've got this!

[start]Becky[/start]

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