Hi, I’ve been having mixed feelings about uni, and I just wanted to know if anyone else has gone through similar experiences and how they overcame it. I started uni in September and I’ve been enjoying it enough - I’ve joined a few societies that I really enjoy, and I like my course a lot. My flatmates are nice and I feel like I get along with them well enough. A few of the girls and I are looking to get a house together next year.
I just feel really lonely most of the time, especially at night as I prefer to stay in than go out, and i’m struggling to find the same general happiness I had when I was at home. I don’t feel like i’m the person I normally am and like I just lack the energy and excitement I had at home. The thing is that I have times when I really do love being at uni, but I also spend lots of the time feeling lonely and just generally unhappy and not myself. I know it takes time to settle in, and I can’t expect everything to be perfect from day 1, but i’m really finding it difficult to deal with the loneliness. I want to enjoy uni, and i’m comfortable with my lifestyle, even if it doesn’t exactly conform to the stereotypical student one of clubbing everyday etc. but I’m having a lot harder of a time than I anticipated with fitting in and being away from home and my Mum.
To anyone who’s been in the same situation, how did it get better? Did you just trust the process and things worked themselves out, or did you do anything in particular? Thanks for any help or kind words, I really do appreciate it.