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I drunkenly kissed another girl, can he forgive me?

I had been with my bf about 1 year and a half. Was on a night out with friends and got really drunk. By the end of the night (must have been last 20 mins but I cannot remember), some of my group had left and the rest of us danced with people from a society we are in. I danced with a girl I'd never spoken to before and do not find attractive. I did not mean anything flirty by it, but she kissed me and I did not push her away or say I had a bf. I identify as straight because sex with women does not appeal to me. I rang my bf the next morning, broke up with him and told him why. I am going to stop drinking and it doesn't feel like a massive sacrifice/ challenge. I know I have cheated, but I want to learn from it and do better. We have talked about trying again in the future, but I don't know if he will be able to forgive me and what I can do to build trust. I know trust is the issue but some of the context makes me feel we could work through it?
Reply 1
probably, if you talk t him well, probably over a coffee date.
Talk it through and see what happens.
Reply 3
It’s only a fleeting drunken snog for goodness sake
Original post by SmartguyM
probably, if you talk t him well, probably over a coffee date.

How do I talk about it well?
Original post by blackcurrantt
I had been with my bf about 1 year and a half. Was on a night out with friends and got really drunk. By the end of the night (must have been last 20 mins but I cannot remember), some of my group had left and the rest of us danced with people from a society we are in. I danced with a girl I'd never spoken to before and do not find attractive. I did not mean anything flirty by it, but she kissed me and I did not push her away or say I had a bf. I identify as straight because sex with women does not appeal to me. I rang my bf the next morning, broke up with him and told him why. I am going to stop drinking and it doesn't feel like a massive sacrifice/ challenge. I know I have cheated, but I want to learn from it and do better. We have talked about trying again in the future, but I don't know if he will be able to forgive me and what I can do to build trust. I know trust is the issue but some of the context makes me feel we could work through it?

Perhaps it depends on whether you've cheated before?

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