My Social life at uni is a bit dead

So im a first year who moved out and its kinda boring and i dont really know much people. Is their anyone else who feels the same? Ive tried talking to people and stuff but its just that no one seems to wanna interact or communicate. Ive made a few friends in my class but they all live far from the uni so i cant really chill or anything with them out of uni.

So im a first year who moved out and its kinda boring and i dont really know much people. Is their anyone else who feels the same? Ive tried talking to people and stuff but its just that no one seems to wanna interact or communicate. Ive made a few friends in my class but they all live far from the uni so i cant really chill or anything with them out of uni.

Hi @User1947393,

It's very common for many first year students to cultivate a consistent social life, especially because most people tend to prefer keeping to themselves and doing their own thing.

Have you taken initiative in joining any clubs and societies in your university? Oftentimes, it's much easier to interact and hold conversations with individuals who have similar interests to you. Gives you both something to bond and talk about! If you're a bit hesitant to commit to a society or club, you could considering attending any social events they host. That way you can get an insight into the vibes of the society and the people there, and if you're not feeling it- you can just back out.

Please don't feel bad about yourself during this process, the right people will come find you eventually

Hope this helps,
Danish
BCU Student Rep

Hi there,

I remember feeling like this in my first year and it can be really hard, especially as you have just moved away from all of your friends/ family for the first time! Firstly, I would say try not to worry about it as there will be so many more people than you think who feel like this and are in this position!

A lot of people in my classes and friends that I made on my course in first year and still now are mostly commuters and it can make it tricky to make plans with them outside of uni lectures. I was surprised at the amount of people who commute but with the cost to live away from home I can understand it! I did sometimes go for coffees with them after classes to go to the library together but making plans like nights out I found tricky as they tended to just do things in their home towns rather than at uni as it was a long way to get there.

Do you get on well with your flatmates? If not, this can also feel lonely but a lot of people are also in this position. You could also try to meet other people from your accommodation- if your accommodation has any social spaces then this might be a good place to meet new people or if they do any events of any kind. This was you know that you have people you can meet or talk to in your building if you feel lonely.

Another good way to make friends which I am sure you have heard about is joining societies! At most universities, there are societies for everything so there may be something that you are interested in. They usually meet a couple of times a week and then have a social and most people there are really friendly and want to make friends so this may be a good way of making friends who are up for doing things with you. Or some societies are more low maintenance and only meet once a month, if you wouldn't want to commit to meeting multiple times a week but you may still meet people here who want to do fun things with you.

Lots of people do like to do their own thing but there are also lots of people who want to do things, whether it be going out or just chilling together and I am sure you will find your people, sometimes it just takes time!

I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.