Confused about what to do
Hi guys, I have been in a long term relationship, firstly intimate now just friends although the guy still would like more. I live above him so he has his flat and I have mine but we are always socialising together, going on holidays and cooking meals for each other etc. I have decided to sell my flat and have not told my friend as I am panicking. I know he would happily live with me but I love living on my own. I want to move somewhere nice and I would love if my friend moved close to me. However I think he will see this as a rebuff and I also feel so selfish. What do you guys think?
Original post by Surnia
Be independent and meet new people. You are just friends with this guy and it's unrealistic, and a bit selfish, to expect him to move! Why should he have to go through all that hassle because it's what you want?
Thanks for replying Surnia. He would like to move as the area we are in is not great but I know he would prefer to move in with me, even just as friends, so we could afford a garden. I know I am just avoiding telling him my flat is for sale as I am worried about his reaction. I am not good with confrontation (such a wuss)- it it is really stressing me out - any advice would be gratefully received re how I can broach this with him gently. Thanks, Indeep
Original post by Tigersaffron
Thanks for replying Surnia. He would like to move as the area we are in is not great but I know he would prefer to move in with me, even just as friends, so we could afford a garden. I know I am just avoiding telling him my flat is for sale as I am worried about his reaction. I am not good with confrontation (such a wuss)- it it is really stressing me out - any advice would be gratefully received re how I can broach this with him gently. Thanks, Indeep
If he's truly a friend you wouldn't be worrying about his reaction! That wouldn't be someone to share a house with under any circumstances; how would it be choosing somewhere, sorting the finances, arranging the housework?
If that's the case, you don't have to tell him anything until it's a done deal, which could take a long time anyway.
Original post by Surnia
If he's truly a friend you wouldn't be worrying about his reaction! That wouldn't be someone to share a house with under any circumstances; how would it be choosing somewhere, sorting the finances, arranging the housework?
If that's the case, you don't have to tell him anything until it's a done deal, which could take a long time anyway.
If that's the case, you don't have to tell him anything until it's a done deal, which could take a long time anyway.
Ahh thank you Surnia, wise words, I always worry about people's feelings but yes he should not have a negetive reaction. Best wishes and thank you x
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