I think there are lot of gaps in your understanding of Mode One and direct honesty....
Where on earth did you read that? Alan advises people NOT to carry out advice in his ebooks?
This simply isn't true dude.
This is EXACTLY why you need to be Mode One with all women. Because if you approach women by being dishonest and vague about your intentions, you leave the door wide open for them to toy with you and play games with you.
But when you are upfront and honest with a girl, you put her in a position where she has to either reciprocate or reject you....she can't toy with you or manipulate you or 'lead you on'.
It's highly likely that these guys they complain about just blurt out stupid stuff like 'hey sexy' or 'omg you're fit/wanna ****' etc. That's not TRUE direct. There is a difference between being classy and confident direct and just being stupid/horndog forward with women.
The guys these girls complain about are likely to be stupid and immature.
But I've NEVER had a girl complain to me about me approaching her direct and honestly. I've had girls tell me I'm 'really forward', but not in a complaining or disgusted sort of way.
So yeah, you have to have some class and charm when you approach a girl direct, and not just be an immature and clueless dick like the guys you mention that these girls complain about.
You can tell her straight away that you're physically attracted to her and that you'd love to get to know her. That way, you let her know you're attracted to her looks but you also want to get to know her personality more. This works great for me and a lot of other Mode One guys.
You still need to make it clear that you're getting to know her because you are interested in being lovers and not just friends. If you just start getting to know a girl without letting her know you're attracted to her/you're interested in being lovers, then you risk being put in the friend zone.
I mean....'getting to know a girl' could have platonic connotations. 'Getting to know a girl' could have romantic/sexual connotations. How is a girl going to know whether you are interested in her as a platonic friend or as a lover if you 'get to know her' but don't state your intentions?
You need to state your intentions upfront, BEFORE you get to know a girl. Otherwise, you could spend a lot of time getting to know a girl who only sees you as a platonic friend, and then you're going to be pissed off and angry that you spent all that time 'getting to know her' and then she tells you she 'just wants to be friends'.
Better to let a girl know upfront you're attracted to her, and that you're getting to know her because you're looking for a lover and not just a friend. This way, if a girl isn't interested in you sexually/romantically, she'll let you know BEFORE you spend time getting to know her. You can then focus only on getting to know girls who are potentially interested in you romantically/sexually instead of wasting time on girls who only see you in a platonic way.
If you approach a girl from a position of weakness and act like you NEED her attention, then you'll come across as 'needy'.
But if you confidently approach a girl and let her know you find her attractive and that you'd love to get to know her, AND if you are willing to walk away if she's not interested, you'll come across as confident and non-needy.
I'm surprised you say 'it doesn't go down well' when you tell a girl you think she's physically attractive.
I've never found it gives them the 'upper hand'....I've found it puts them in a position where they have to let me know their intentions. Since I'm being honest with them, it gets them to be honest with me. Neither party wastes time wondering what the other person's intentions are, etc.
Alan doesn't say not to compliment them. He just says don't compliment them without stating your intentions, and don't compliment just to gain 'brownie points'. If your compliment is truly sincere and is what your are truly and honestly thinking, then yes you should compliment them.
Also, Alan's colleague, David X, who is also direct and honest with women, says to start with a compliment....he tells guys to ask themselves 'what about her turns me on', then to walk over to the girl and tell her honestly what you've noticed. This works fantastically well in my experience. You might want to check out some of David X's free interviews where he talks about this (he's also been on Alan's radio show several times):-
http://www.davidxdating.com/videos.htmlNo, you've got that BACKWARDS. It is BECAUSE women play games that direct honesty is needed. By being direct and honest with women, they can't toy with you or play games, whereas when you are indirect and vague with women about your intentions, this is where they can toy with you, waste your time and lead you on.
If you play games with women, they will play games with you. If you're honest with them, you put them in a position where they have to be honest with you about THEIR intentions.
Mode One/direct honesty is your bullet proof vest against games, manipulation, etc.
Again, it's not direct honesty that's creepy...it's THEM who are creepy.
My hunch is that you haven't done many direct approaches. You seem confused about a lot of aspects of this kind of approach, and you have a lot of unfounded misconceptions about it. My advice would be to go out one day to a shopping centre or to a nightclub and approach 10 or more girls and just be upfront and honest with them in the way I've described. You'll be surprised how well women respond to direct, sincere honesty. Once you've done this, report back with your results.