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How to feel sexy?

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. I know he thinks I'm the sexiest girl in the world but the trouble is I don't FEEL sexy. I think I'm ok-looking but I'm quite self concious and shy. I know he'd love me to feel sexy and confident and I know it would benefit our sex life enough to do things like strip teases. I just don't know how to feel sexy :frown:

help!!

Reply 1

TheRealAnon

buy some sexy lingerie. really splash out. you will feel sexy and you're boyfriend would love it.

Reply 2

flowermaster91

get some sexy lingerie and look at yourself in the mirror :coma:

Reply 3

thisisnew

French knickers!

Reply 4

Aristotle's' Disciple

Ask random guys if they think you're hot?

Reply 5

Enoch.

Watch some porn and see how better you are compared to the porn stars.

Reply 6

silverbolt

OP think what you think is sexy and then emulate it. Ignoring the "try the sexy underwear" comments as they may not suit you. What do you find sexy? Maybe the sexy knickers arnt enough so how about a long flowing black dress that emphasises and accentuates your body, change your hair to suit and actress/singer/randomer you find sexy. Do it for you and then youl be sexy.

Oh and if you figure it out let my gf know, i wish she would feel confident to be sexy as well

Reply 7

catsss

Work out, eat right, drink water, and get really cute panties and bras.
Prance around in them whenever you feel like it.

That's what has worked for me. :h:

Reply 8

Roo Bix

Find your comfort zone.

Reply 9

JustLau

Every time he says you look sexy, take note of what you're doing. What are you wearing? Are you lying down, perhaps unknowingly in a sexy pose, walking, etc? Are you looking at him, watching him, or are you doing something else? This helped me somewhat with my last boyfriend. I realised that just because I didn't think I looked like a sexy dancer or smouldering seductress, didn't mean he didn't think I was the sexiest woman in the world at that moment, and I wasn't the one watching me.

Reply 10

cellophane11

Confidence is the key :yep:

Loose weight.

Original post by python

Loose weight.

who said she was overweight?

Reply 13

madge.DC

There is a big difference between looking sexy and feeling it. If you don't feel it inside then no amount of underware is going to help you girl!
You need to just relax and feel comfortable about yourself then it won't matter what you put on you'll still feel sexy and men will respond. When I'm feeling sexy I can walk down the street in my Jeans and a T shirt and still get compliments. :smile:

If I don myself up in an LDB and heels and go out when I'm not feeling in the mood it really shows. :mad:

You need to learn to relax more and realise that he is with you because he loves being with you........ :rolleyes:

If all that fails then break out the alcohol!!! :tongue:

Reply 14

madge.DC

Original post by xStaceyy

who said she was overweight?

I think he's trollin around trying to be funny.......didn't work though! :s-smilie:

just suck on it...

1. Open your front door
2. Lean forward and stick your head out
3. Slam the door on your head
4. Repeat Steps 1 - 3 until you feel sexy

Reply 17

Zebracolors

Original post by Anonymous

help!!

I sometimes go through this as well, where my guy wants me to "be sexy" though its difficult and not like a lightswitch that can just be turned off or on. Many young women and sometimes even into 30s and 40s, feel unattractive despite being told otherwise.

It could be from many factors like media influence, maybe they were once told or it was implied they were not pretty, or just not familiar with beauty trends, makeup etc. (btw not implying that a girl can only be pretty with make up :smile:

Maybe I am not alone, but many women sometimes need genuine reassurance from the one person who's opinion should matter the most. If he often tells you you're gorgeous or sexy and shows it in the way he acts around you, then you probably can believe he's sincere. Probably one of the biggest turn-ons for a guy is a woman who is confident in her sexuality, and prudence can have the exact opposite effect.

Decide if his reassurance is enough and keep reminding yourself that he really cares for you and thinks you are sexy. And if he has stayed with you for a year now, it means that he feels you are worth the wait and wants to see you come out your metaphorical shell. I know for myself, when my guy tells me I am beautiful and sexy its a real confidence boost for me. Hope this helps, good luck. :smile:

Reply 18

Sickojones

You're sexy. Done.