Hi there.
I'm making this thread to address a situation that has just absolutely plagued me for years, and it's putting me on the brink of giving on on relationships as a whole. I'm a 19 year old male attending university, and I just seem absolutely incapable of doing anything correct in a relationship for myself. Many of my friends see me as the guy to speak to for relationship help, looking for advice, and how they can save something that might be going sour. Most of the time, my advice works out well, in some cases, it's worked out very well in the most improbable of situations.
So, I ask myself why I seem utterly incapable of being able to attract a relationship with a girl. I mean, I'm not good looking by any means, I've asked for anonymous ratings before, and I generally get about 3.5-5.5/10, which I would agree with as a whole. Perhaps that is just one disadvantage, but even then, there is meant to be someone out there for everyone? Right?...
Looking at other than the obvious, one thing that I severely question myself on is my current age, and the rest of my current generation. Whilst I continue to seek for my first ever relationship, I'm not looking for sex, or any of that kind of stuff, to me, that comes much later, when the other person is ready to go ahead with it. I view a relationship as a partner to care for, a person you can rely on to tell the full truth to, a person you can cuddle up to whilst watching a moving in the cinemas or a person you can have a nice day out with, holding hands, enjoying life. Is it that the majority of my current age group seek for something else, obviously more so in sex, and the whole effect of being laid for the first times in their lives?
Another thing in question is my personality, I have absolutely no intention of ever betraying whomever ends up in a relationship with me. I know for a fact that I would be lucky to have said person, especially if I've come to like them, which generally means that they're out for a serious relationship, so why on earth would I throw that away? I would sacrifice my time and effort for whomever, I would essentially throw everything out of the window other than my education, family and friends to just be with whomever. Am I being too nice, or too weak in my personality? Do I need to strengthen up, and act differently in what I do?
Then there is my initial approach to a person that I really care for... I know that I'm doing this wrong, but that is because I absolutely don't have the courage to stand out there, and to drop kinky/flirty lines... Because that isn't what I do, it isn't about the sex, or anything of such nature. I've taken a few people that I've liked in the past to several days and nights out, but are they really dates, or am I just being used for my money?
I just don't know how to do this anymore, everyone that I know, says that my advice to them about relationships is incredible, and how I've saved their love life, and how it's helped people get together... But why do I struggle so much to follow my own advice? I've never been on a serious flirty date, I've never been kissed, I've never been passionately hugged, I don't understand what I'm doing that is SO wrong, that I can't even crack the foundations of beginning to make someone like me.
It's just frustrating, I guess I've typed this out in a rant, to see if I can figure it out for myself, but it doesn't mean much...