why does every guy do this to me? so annoyed

Maybe because you seem wrapped up in this idea that you shouldn't put out until your fairly deep into a relationship? Theres nothing wrong with it but I can pinpoint probably the main issue right there.

Sure some guys use girls for sex. But some girls also use guys for sex so there is really no issue there. People go after what they want. But so many relationships are born out of the feelings sex creates between two people. Of course, some people end up getting hurt, but if you don't try then you won't get. Even if you were hurt by three boys you liked and then one didn't '**** you over' as you might put it, you'd still be happy for a lot longer than you'd be hurt.

But how do you expect a guy to want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't seem to want sex? Its just completely counterproductive. You could be the perfect girl for me but you'd never get a shot because I'm a virile male who wants to have sex.

First of all, you are not "friend zoned". They don't consider you a friend, because they try to sleep with you and lose interest once they can't. Forget about that term.

Identify where your problem lies. This is a good guide from a blog:

1. Men hit on you all the time, and you get dates, but you struggle to get (or keep) a boyfriend.

Your personality needs work. Men are attracted by your initial shine, but they soon discover your lack of substance. They don't like spending time with you because you are either boring, too high-maintenance, stupid, too insecure or annoying - or some combination of these. Be honest with yourself in determining which of these are the biggest problems, then re-focus your efforts and do whatever it takes to fix them.

2. You never get hit on by men you are attracted to, or else they hit on you but then make an excuse to leave and don't ask for your number. They ones that want you are always short, or fat, or ugly, or awkward. The hot guys that you want to hit on you never do. Or, you never get hit on at all.

This happens either because you aren't making yourself attractive enough or because you have unrealistic expectations about what kind of men you can attract. Assume the former first: lose weight, spend more time on your hair, or work on your appearance in some other way. Then, if things still aren't working out (and be patient because this takes time), lower your standards.

3. Your friends always get hit on and you don't, or you always get hit on by the less-attractive friend or the obvious "wing man." It happens so much that you just expect it now.

Same as #2, with the added suggestion that - if none of that works (and again, it takes time) - you should start going out with new people who are closer to your level of attractiveness, at least occasionally.

4. Men hit on you and ask (text) you to go out drinking, but not to go out on dates. Or they ask you on dates, try to sleep with you a couple times, then never call again.

You are projecting a slutty image by your behavior. Men immediately recognize that you are not girlfriend material so they just try to hook up with you. Tone down the drinking, leave bars earlier, and acknowledge that your lifestyle is not conducive to finding a guy who will respect you.

5. Men treat you like a friend, not like a girl they are interested in sexually or romantically.

You probably allow men to treat you like one of the guys. This isn't actually that bad of a situation to be in, because with just a little effort, you can improve your looks to a point that men will look at you in a romantic and sexual light. And if you start acting more feminine you can break out of the "friends" mold.

Why do women have to change themselves to get a boyfriend? Surely if someone really has the potential to love you then they will love you for yourself - not for some fake personality or polished appearance that isn't natural for you. You want a meaningful relationship? Don't change yourself and be patient and wait for the right person to come along. Then they'll accept you.


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Why do women have to change themselves to get a boyfriend? Surely if someone really has the potential to love you then they will love you for yourself - not for some fake personality or polished appearance that isn't natural for you. You want a meaningful relationship? Don't change yourself and be patient and wait for the right person to come along. Then they'll accept you.


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If I go for the guys that are always in relationships

You might be hot physically, but boring as ****.

"Wish you were here"

Seriously saying that before you are actually together is so lame.

"Wish you were ****ing me"

A lot more fun.

sorry guys this is really irrelevant but can you please do my questionnaire?
will only take less than 5 minutes i promise!

http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/VNSTQL8 thankyou so much!!

First of all, you are not "friend zoned". They don't consider you a friend, because they try to sleep with you and lose interest once they can't. Forget about that term.

Identify where your problem lies. This is a good guide from a blog:

1. Men hit on you all the time, and you get dates, but you struggle to get (or keep) a boyfriend.

Your personality needs work. Men are attracted by your initial shine, but they soon discover your lack of substance. They don't like spending time with you because you are either boring, too high-maintenance, stupid, too insecure or annoying - or some combination of these. Be honest with yourself in determining which of these are the biggest problems, then re-focus your efforts and do whatever it takes to fix them.

2. You never get hit on by men you are attracted to, or else they hit on you but then make an excuse to leave and don't ask for your number. They ones that want you are always short, or fat, or ugly, or awkward. The hot guys that you want to hit on you never do. Or, you never get hit on at all.

This happens either because you aren't making yourself attractive enough or because you have unrealistic expectations about what kind of men you can attract. Assume the former first: lose weight, spend more time on your hair, or work on your appearance in some other way. Then, if things still aren't working out (and be patient because this takes time), lower your standards.

3. Your friends always get hit on and you don't, or you always get hit on by the less-attractive friend or the obvious "wing man." It happens so much that you just expect it now.

Same as #2, with the added suggestion that - if none of that works (and again, it takes time) - you should start going out with new people who are closer to your level of attractiveness, at least occasionally.

4. Men hit on you and ask (text) you to go out drinking, but not to go out on dates. Or they ask you on dates, try to sleep with you a couple times, then never call again.

You are projecting a slutty image by your behavior. Men immediately recognize that you are not girlfriend material so they just try to hook up with you. Tone down the drinking, leave bars earlier, and acknowledge that your lifestyle is not conducive to finding a guy who will respect you.

5. Men treat you like a friend, not like a girl they are interested in sexually or romantically.

You probably allow men to treat you like one of the guys. This isn't actually that bad of a situation to be in, because with just a little effort, you can improve your looks to a point that men will look at you in a romantic and sexual light. And if you start acting more feminine you can break out of the "friends" mold.

Totally agree, why should anyone change who they are

well ive never had sex before, so for me sex comes in a deep relationship.

The guys in question know this, and i did other stuff with the 1, then we got into a relationship and he ditched me.

The other 1 is just a friend who 1 minute claims he wants to be with me and keeps changing his mind.

It sounds to me like you are way too keen on getting into a relationship and are not being very discerning in the process. I'm finding it hard to believe that you have wanted a relationship with every one of the string of guys you speak of. Have you been seduced by them personally, or just by the idea of being in a relationship? Your desperation shows in this thread, so it follows that it shows in your behaviour.