Not to give too much detail, but I feel my boyfriend is selfish when it comes to sex and his own physical pleasure.
He's not THAT bad, its not like 2 minutes and he's done, rolls over and falls asleep. No, he's not like that. But i still wonder if there is anything i can do
We have a great relationship- very loving, can talk to each other about anything. Outside the bedroom he's very affectionate and cute etc. Says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He couldn't be a better boyfriend. I couldn't be without him and we are like best friends. I lost my virginity to him and i'm only his second sexual partner.
Anyway, to the point- He does care about how I feel, he's tried all kinds of things to make me feel good before. But lately he's just been focussing on himself, I feel. When he's finished he doesn't even try to continue making me feel good (trying not to give too much information here, sorry) he just goes really fast, finishes, then apologises but doesn't do anything about it. Sex is never slow and tender- which is what i kind of need, at least in the early stages, to enjoy it fully.
What should I say to him without offending or embarrassing him? Sex really isn't very good for me these days. It used to be great cos he used to think about how i felt, i don't feel he does that much any more