I betrayed my partner

I don't know how strong both of you are, but if its enough to make this work. Then i do wish you luck. you seem sincerely sorry for it and have admitted to the betrayal to her.
I hope in the future for both of you it works out. I suppose reading through this thread you do seem like a genuine guy, who feels guilt and remorse for the mistake he did. Admitting to it and fully taken responsibility for it, not people can do that....some people can be oblivious that their actions can effect people in a bad way and get away with it........without knowing they put a person through hell.

Break contact with both girls. You're a disgrace. I'm sorry if I seem harsh but how dare you. You cannot blame drunkenness; if you can't handle the drink, don't drink - it's quite simple really.

You haven't "scarred" yourself at all, you're trying to convince yourself that it's ok. Sadly, it's not - some people never learn, I fear that you're one of them.

There's only two words for people like you: Open Relationship. That's really all you can hope for in the future.

Thanks for the positive message-you put a lot of thought into it. Yeah we spoke all yesterday and today-I explained everything. She reassured me and tried to cheer me up. Feel sad when I hear her sweet voice. I know she is hurt but she knows how down I can get.

I will stop all contact with that girl and in fact all that friends circle. Just want to move on completely. I have deleted her from facebook just now.

Oh in regards to the message I sent. It was actually sent to my gf saying I want to sleep with this other girl. I didn't know I sent it till the next day looking at my phone history. She has been aware of my frustrations for a while and has said she doesn't want me to keep waiting for her but it hurts her too seeing me sleep with other girls. She even replied saying it's ok-me being drunk I forgot that it would hurt her too.

Just a complete mess. But now I know one thing for sure-I can't possibly to this ever again and will wait for her and her only. Our love is special and very real and I don't want anyone coming in between.

I would never want an open relationship. Completely misunderstand me and my thread. Fair enough people who say I am a disgrace for this one error but don't try and second guess me and make silly presumptions. You feel quite strongly about this. Maybe you struggle with relationships in some form/capacity.

I have two words for you too. First begins with F, second is O.