23 and never had a boyfriend.

Is it a coincidence that all of the "I'm 22/23/24 and have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend" people on this thread are also the ones that disparage socialising and get uber-defensive when you suggest perhaps they could make better use of their time than spending their days ****ing around on computer games like overgrown 14 year olds?

No, no it isn't.

Not saying I agree with the tone of this, but it's definitely true that if you're not satisfied with being single, you need to do something about it. And keep going. Some people will be rejected more than others, that's a fact. But largely, you get what you give with courtship.

Consider more than one person at a time and put people you're attracted to at arm's length rather than on a pedestal. That way you don't get hung up if it's a no. Move on to the next person. And the next person. I learned this lesson the hard way at uni.

anger leads to fear, fear leads to hatred, hatred leads to the dark side.

You watch Star Wars? What a loser. How do you ever find time to socialize and watch films?

I see you have moved on from 'those who don't drink will never have friends or a partner' to 'those who play video games will never have friends or a partner' both of which are moronic statements

Video games are a bigger industry than films. Looks like the human race will die out as all these people are obviously socially inept virgins.

Are you this aggressive and antagonistic on dates?

Nope. Anyway I thought dates were for teenagers?

Just pointing out the flaw in your view. Loads of people play video games. It is entirely possible to partake in a solitary hobby (reading being an example) and have a social life. Why is this so hard to understand?

I get defensive at the assumption that if you play even a single video game you are by definition a social loser. I'm not saying being sat in front of a screen all the time is good for you (it obviously isn't) but if some people do find socializing harder than others what exactly is wrong with them having something they can do on their own?

Whatever the reasons some people develop social phobias that become debilitating. If someone had depression or agoraphobia or another mental health problem would your solution just be to call them pampered lazy cowards?

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/social-anxiety/Pages/Social-anxiety.aspx - it's a recognized thing

I know I need to socialize more, I know I like socializing and I know it makes me miserable when I don't do enough of it. Poeple with depression often know what they need to do to make themselves feel better, but they don't carry it out as that is the nature of the illness. Well bad social anxiety is similar. You can get stuck in horrible negative feedback loops. You know you should go out more and meet new people. But you are scared so you don't. This makes the problem worse and you become more apprehensive to go out until eventually the thought of going out is so bad that you just can't bring yourself to do it and you just hide away feeling awful about it. Then some tit calls you a lazy coward which makes you feel utterly worthless and a waste of space of a person.

I don't think you'd be interested if you actually met me. People tell me I am weird. Why haven't you had a girlfriend though? I mean, guys may not like what I'm going to say but I really think it's easier for guys. Guys think any girl can get a bf and it is just not true. I am proof of that.

Why is it easier for guys?

I'm 25 and have never had a boyfriend. It seems to bother other people more than it does me...

...but... but why???

Which part? Relationships doesn't interest me in the slightest and never had done. No idea why it bothers other people though. When I was at uni, I got a very odd lecture on how if I don't have a boyfriend now (I was 20 / 21) I won't be able to have children, because time is running out. Due to my current health, children are a no even if I was with someone.