Flirting with a girl in the friendzone

To.be honest leave her you will find better. If u teXT her having thanks giving and she doesn't reply then that's all u need to know. Is this your first crush?

Ask yourself, if you had a friend who was way cooler/more popular than you, whom you showed all the texts you've been sending etc, what would their reaction be? Then allow that 'friend' to be your inner voice. Laugh at yourself and tell yourself to snap out of it. She may be a great girl, you may one day have a great connection, but right now, she's just a pal, and one of many. More importantly, she's not a realistic dating prospect, so you should be focused on those. Firmly place her in the friendzone. If it helps, tell her this too

I can't make that call without knowing the whole context/detail of your exchanges, and don't have the time/inclination to go into that. Use your judgement

You should send the 1st message as soon as you have the number and feel like it. Simple as that

Sure Merry Christmas can't hurt, but not x-mas + NY! If she doesn't say anything at NY then wait until the next day or so and then maybe ask her how hers was. Remember to just read the situation as you would someone else's situation, dispassionately, and only do what seems both comfortable and reasonable to you

Okay yeah. I feel sad, feel completely played. This girl just talks to me when she wants some attention then?

I'll text her, but maybe I should leave it and wait for something else. She mentioned she was packing and visiting her parents back home in about a fortnight. Should I text before then?

To.be honest leave her you will find better. If u teXT her having thanks giving and she doesn't reply then that's all u need to know. Is this your first crush?

A lot of people r telling you the same thing to let it go. No I wouldn't bother texting but from the sounds of it you will. I think only when u realise it for yourself you will.think y was I wasting my time

Firmly place her in the friendzone. If it helps, tell her this too

A lot of people r telling you the same thing to let it go. No I wouldn't bother texting but from the sounds of it you will. I think only when u realise it for yourself you will.think y was I wasting my time

It's not my first ever crush in life, but my 2nd from uni.

Unfortunately, by the time I met her properly when we started working, she was moving abroad. So I didn't ask her out. Well... I did try, I asked her whether she would like company one night, she said yes, then she ended up having to stay at work, she said it's all right I'll see you at my leaving drinks. But I had other plans on the weekend and was irritated by the flakiness, so stuck to my original plans (at another town).

When she moved abroad, she IMed me at work every day. I recently got her number (whatsapp).

I think I find her hot and exciting because she is a wild girl.

Should I not try and keep in touch with her then?

No she obviously isn't trying with you. Think about this..

1. You asked her out she said yeah then made up an excuse not to come

2. She moved away didn't know anyone si decided to im you now she probably has friends hence y she isn't actively keeping in touch as much.

3. Go out with workmate and socialise at uni there are plenty of 'hot and wild' girls out there.

4.NO MORE MESSAGING. Maybe she will noticed you've stopped and message you but at this.point your predictable and she knows it.

5. Make a thread called 'meet new people' or something and talk to people on here ask if anyone Is from your area or uni

1. I guess, but then again, I'm not sure I directly asked her out.
2. I think you are right. Maybe she was lonely and so wanted someone to talk to.
4. But will she message back? She doesn't seem like she will. When should I message her then? Just at new years?

How to get her to try it on with me? Someone mentioned friendzoning her on here. How do I do that and make her want to work to get out of it?

U can't make someone want you. Friends zone is when u Are strictly friends. Dnt message her at all. Its becoming repeactive now sorry to say

U can't make someone want you. Friends zone is when u Are strictly friends. Dnt message her at all. Its becoming repeactive now sorry to say

Might be a lost cause if she's abroad..

Why are you obsessed in being her entertaining texting buddy?
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Ask yourself, if you had a friend who was way cooler/more popular than you, whom you showed all the texts you've been sending etc, what would their reaction be? Then allow that 'friend' to be your inner voice. Laugh at yourself and tell yourself to snap out of it. She may be a great girl, you may one day have a great connection, but right now, she's just a pal, and one of many. More importantly, she's not a realistic dating prospect, so you should be focused on those. Firmly place her in the friendzone. If it helps, tell her this too

I can't make that call without knowing the whole context/detail of your exchanges, and don't have the time/inclination to go into that. Use your judgement

You should send the 1st message as soon as you have the number and feel like it. Simple as that

Sure Merry Christmas can't hurt, but not x-mas + NY! If she doesn't say anything at NY then wait until the next day or so and then maybe ask her how hers was. Remember to just read the situation as you would someone else's situation, dispassionately, and only do what seems both comfortable and reasonable to you

If a girl has friendzoned you then you need to be careful about attempts to escape it. If she sees you as this keeno/horny goofball then sexual escalation (even strictly verbal) may result in a massive own goal. She needs to respect you as a man/sexual entity, and perceive your flirtation as natural, before you can go there without coming across as a creeper or weirding her out. Randomly being like: "I think you should suck it" is probably a bad idea, unless infused with cheeky humour in terms of style/tone and the sort of thing she imagines you'd say naturally

Call her buddy, pal, amigo, or even mate or dude, whatever you like. Keep your message short and to the point in this case

Impossible for me to say, I am not her

As above, although as noted in other posts, sometimes showing a girl that you have friendzoned her too (leaving space for the idea that you're not just going to hang around and that maybe she's missing out) is likely to be a good strategy in some cases:



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All girls are different.

Just be you.

Point taken. Trouble is feel like this girl doesn't really even initiate. Should I drop it then?

Feel so confused (because I fancy her a little!)

You don't really 'get her to', either she does or she doesn't, and if she does, it's by virtue of simply being a 'cheeky son of a gun'/playful in general. This comes with experience/confidence. I am this way with women, and have been since my early 20's, but I wasn't born that way, for most of us it takes time and is a function of social experience (so socialise as much as poss)..

Yup, but it must be accompanied by the above to be truly effective (unless she's a bit of a dork)

I am, but I don't have enough context, and everyone is different (even if we do all tend to behave in fairly predictable/simple ways)

Depends. If you're just a dorky boy then it's not going to happen any time soon. If you have the right raw ingredients then you wanna work on yourself/social life first, then think about reframing

Don't, unless you're an absolute BAWS. Even I mess this up occasionally and I'm an experienced/grown man, so for a beginner it's just about the last thing you want to be attempting really

It's not that simple, unfortuantely, unless the raw ingredients are there and you have high social intelligence/adaptability

A real boss doesn't play games, and certainly never 'worries' about anything particularly. Now I'm not saying all young guys should aspire to literally be a boss, but losing the beta/faux-'nice guy' characteristics is certainly a step in the right direction

Whatever you feel like, but not too soppy e.g. I would say somet like "Sorry to hear that pet :/" or "Ah, that sucks! :/" plus "Feel better! xo" and maybe "That's an order! ^_^" (instructive, yet playful)

I tend to avoid language like 'hope', 'wish', and vagueries like 'kind of', 'a little bit', 'I think maybe' etc, at least until I've put a girl to the sword (so she knows the kind of man she's dealing with and isn't going to erroneously pre-judge you to be a softie/nice guy)

Just be cool I wouldn't ask her how she is more than once a day for sure. Always give girls a little space to breathe, and register their interest in you, never bombard (unless your game is so strong you literally don't give a ****)

Life is about balance. Sheer apathy is weird/game playing. Being relatively dispassionate* is what you wanna aim for; do not predicate your happiness/self worth on what any particular girl thinks of you/does with/for you until you are literally in love with them (reciprocal)

Texting girls in general should be a more of a sporadic pass-time, unless you're actually trying to line up a solid dating prospect. Whatsapp is a bit different as it's kind of chat, but even chat has its limits

Perhaps, or perhaps she was just less busy. Best not to read too much into anything and just focus on your own life and objectives