Why do the people we like always avoid us and the people we dislike always approach?

Is it a mind thing? It's always the guy you don't like or the girl you're not interested in who texts or says hi, not the one you want to talk to..why? Is it the energy we give to them? Thoughts?

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Reply 1

Placeboo123

We love the ones who ignore us.
We ignore the ones who loves us.
:frown:

Reply 2

AndrewMC1994

I'm not sure maybe it has something to do with human beings a lot of the time wanting what they can't have.

So yes maybe it is a mind thing.

Reply 3

Zenarthra

This is quite true, not sure exactly why though.

Reply 4

username94219

OMG - this is spot on!!! Soo many guys ive seen and show total interest in but they're never interested in me. And then you get the guys who won't leave you alone despite saying numerous you're not interested.

I don't get it but it sure is annoying! Lol

Reply 5

username931319

You're doing it wrong.

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Reply 6

plasmaman

Why does nobody approach us?

Reply 7

High Stakes

Because showing interest is deemed unattractive.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by AntisthenesDogger

You're doing it wrong.

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How?

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Original post by DancinBallerina

I know! Weird! I always keep getting texts from the guys I just don't want to talk to but the one I want to talk to never replies or texts :s-smilie:

Reply 10

holmes221

Original post by High Stakes

Because showing interest is deemed unattractive.

Or too much of it is desperation

Reply 11

FireGarden

I think it's probably to do with how we generally have our eye on one person. If other people are friendly at all, you'll be approached by them, and more frequently of course, as there's many of them. You might find that if you counted the number of times each person 'contacts you first' so to speak, you'll find that people of the same 'closeness' to you have similar results, and that person you have your eye on is not much different to anyone else in whatever group they fall in. Combine this with confirmation bias and we have the answer.

Reply 12

username94219

Original post by Anonymous

I know! Weird! I always keep getting texts from the guys I just don't want to talk to but the one I want to talk to never replies or texts :s-smilie:

Yep, always the way!

Reply 13

High Stakes

Original post by DancinBallerina

Yep, always the way!

So you're attracted to guys who don't display much interest?

Reply 14

GenialGermanGent

Don't know what you're taking about.

Reply 15

Godofwar_

That happens every ****in time -___- like common. But here is my theory and it is based on looks.

The people that you like or interested in are attractive in someway shape or form (don't lie) but the people that chase you; you say to yourself ugh I can do better see its a loop. The people that your chasing are busy chasing the ones who are busy chasing someone else !! Do you get it?

And the only solution and only solution is to man up or woman up and talk to the person your chasing yourself no need to play these stupid mind games because you also NEVRR Know !

Happy new year.

Reply 16

rockrunride

It tells us one thing above all: we need to get our heads out of our arses.

Reply 17

ParadiseFound

It means your probably punching above your weight

Reply 18

kumon

The law of attraction, it's evil, only those with enough will power can overcome it :u:

Reply 19

Ebony19

I think it's that we get fed up easily and that we over analyse everything to much so as to match it to what's socially acceptable. I bet if the guy/girl you liked started out messaging you incessantly after a while you'd wind up posting on here that they're too clingy.

We're never bloody happy.

It's like people nowadays people are like 'oh you message me too much' or 'oh you don't message me enough'. Would be nice if we had the luxury of feeling like ah I'm just glad to be having a nice chat or I'll message so and so. There always has to be questions 'oh has it been a sufficient amount of time before I can or am I being clingy' no ones ever true to themselves.

It's sad.