My boyfriend and I live in a flat with two roommates, a guy (friend of mine) and a girl. Because we're all students, and only one of us, the girl, has a job, we obviously want to have as little expenditure regarding bills as possible. My boyfriend and roommates get a college grant (we're living in Ireland), but my boyfriend gets very little compared to them, what he gets monthly covers only his rent. I'm on a different grant where I do get more, so I cover my rent and all our bills, food etc. My friend gets a very large grant, and also money from his mother regularly, and our other roommate has a part time job and a grant, although i'm unsure how much she gets. We've been living in the apartment since early September, and before we moved in we had agreed to certain things like making out a chores list, and my roommate (lets call her Ann) said she would shower at the college gym to avoid using a lot of electricity. At this stage, I didn't know she showered every day, which she does. My boyfriend asked her to shower here less, and she said she would but never actually did. Our electricity bill comes in every two months, and we've only received two bills so far. The first bill was completely reasonable, but the second was quite a lot more. All the utilities are taken out of my account, so when I get the bill I text the others. I text them saying that it was so much more, and that they needed to cut down on usage in the future. My boyfriend and I are very good with using appliances etc, we shower every second day, or every third, and we only use the washing machine after 6pm, when cost is way cheaper. We've told the others this many times, but Ann still showers first thing in the morning and uses the washing machine when she wants, like right now. The only thing my boyfriend and I use in excess would be the machine, but that's because there's two of us and we never use it before 6pm. Ann also recently had a friend of hers live with us for over two weeks, who showered daily too and used the machine regularly.
Our other roommate who is my friend showers rarely almost, and also rarely uses the washer, and he's good at unplugging things when he's not using them. I think it's unfair that we should be paying as much as her when we're conscious of cost and she's not. We can't discuss it with my friend, however, because whenever we've brought up a problem regarding Ann in the past he just instantly defends her. I'm not saying he should hate her or anything, but she has done some stupid stuff and he just makes excuses for her all the time. He can afford to pay the extra costs, but my boyfriend and I are saving up for the summer for rent, when he won't be getting a grant and I'll be getting way less, and the internet bill will be twice as much then it is now.
She was also staying at the apartment over Christmas holidays. She 's from the city where we live, and only went home for Christmas eve and day. My boyfriend and I came back on the 28th before going to his family's home for a few days, and there was a de-humidifier on in the kitchen, the washing machine on, and loads of appliances turned on while she was at work - and bills were costing twice as much as usual over the Christmas period. (Ireland sucks sometimes) This, and her friend staying with us for such a long period of time, really is going to make the bill be so much more than it should be. I told her to be more careful when the last bill came in, and she said she would be, but clearly hasn't.
I don't really know how to explain to her that she should pay more? It's not like she doesn't know she's being unfair, we've said it to her so many times. Is maybe lying about how much the bill is the only way?
Sorry for the excess information, but it's a problem that's been around since September, and there's so many problems we've had with her! She's the reason my boyfriend and I don't want to live with roommates after our lease is up