soooo my bf basically told me he wanked over someone else I THINK
reading the title i wouldnt be bothered either (other than the telling me), but my bf is a musician and did a gig about 3 weeks ago (wedding) that was fairly close by and I stayed at his that night. When he got back I mentioned being grubby (we'd had sex earlier and I hadn't showered yet) and he said 'don't worry, I'm covered in cum too.....I had a **** before soundcheck' which annoyed me slightly in itself - I was at his flat waiting for him to come back. Anyway, a couple of hours later he told me about this kind of photobooth at the reception, and how a girl had gone in front of the camera and lifted up her skirt, his words - 'beavering' the whole room.
I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm just upset that my bf would **** over someone else whilst I'm laid in his bed waiting for him to come home and then basically tell me about it. It was nearly a month ago now and still keeps popping into my head, but I think it's too late to bring up (in case I've got the wrong end of the stick - he's told me before about times hes wanked over me in public.
Another note- we had a row a few months ago because he opened his folders on his PC and there was one full of naked girls on there - I told him I was fine with him looking at other people but rubbing it in my face was too much
In all other areas our relationship is great. I just feel sometimes like I cant openly talk about things. hence this. Ty for reading..
tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
I don't know if I'm being silly but I'm just upset that my bf would **** over someone else whilst I'm laid in his bed waiting for him to come home and then basically tell me about it. It was nearly a month ago now and still keeps popping into my head, but I think it's too late to bring up (in case I've got the wrong end of the stick - he's told me before about times hes wanked over me in public.
Another note- we had a row a few months ago because he opened his folders on his PC and there was one full of naked girls on there - I told him I was fine with him looking at other people but rubbing it in my face was too much
In all other areas our relationship is great. I just feel sometimes like I cant openly talk about things. hence this. Ty for reading..
tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
Scroll to see replies
Original post by Anonymous
tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
tl;dr - go to another thread, can't explain concisely.
Ha. I will be stealing this.
sorry, realised I didn't actually post a question. I'm wondering how I can stop thinking about this, because it's in my head constantly
"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
Matthew 5:28
Matthew 5:28
Yes you're being silly. 99.9% of guys will have done that.
No idea how you get over it. Sorry.
No idea how you get over it. Sorry.
you could have just shortened it to
"boyfriend wanked. I'm mad."
But ye unless you're against porn. Don't see the big deal lol. Man's gotta ****.
"boyfriend wanked. I'm mad."
But ye unless you're against porn. Don't see the big deal lol. Man's gotta ****.
Issue isn't him doing it but basically telling me he has. What was my reaction meant to be?
Don't convict your man of a thought crime! The fact that he so readily opened up to you means, at least, that there is fantastic communication within your relaionship, and hopefully a fufilling sex life too!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
Original post by ChickenMadness
you could have just shortened it to
"boyfriend wanked. I'm mad."
But ye unless you're against porn. Don't see the big deal lol. Man's gotta ****.
"boyfriend wanked. I'm mad."
But ye unless you're against porn. Don't see the big deal lol. Man's gotta ****.
not really though. I was at his, he could have ****ed me when he got back. and porn comment irrelevant for reasons already stated.
Can you read?
Original post by Sir Candour
Don't convict your man of a thought crime! The fact that he so readily opened up to you means, at least, that there is fantastic communication within your relaionship, and hopefully a fufilling sex life too!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
Thank you, this is exactly the kind of reply I was hoping for (although not expecting on TSR, tbh) - my issue is that it was a fair while ago now and I don't know how to appoach it without seeming like I'm acting ridiculously.
Original post by Anonymous
not really though. I was at his, he could have ****ed me when he got back. and porn comment irrelevant for reasons already stated. Can you read?
he could have wanked and ****ed you as well lol.
Unless you do all the work it's easier to have a **** if he's tired
Original post by ChickenMadness
he could have wanked and ****ed you as well lol.
Unless you do all the work it's easier to have a **** if he's tired
Unless you do all the work it's easier to have a **** if he's tired
Yeah but he didn't. That's why I've made a thread about it.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah but he didn't. That's why I've made a thread about it.
which is why i made the second point lol
Original post by Sir Candour
Don't convict your man of a thought crime! The fact that he so readily opened up to you means, at least, that there is fantastic communication within your relaionship, and hopefully a fufilling sex life too!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
I'd mention your concerns, in a non -acusational way. Best of luck!
Ah you took the words right out of my mouth!
OP doesn't really need to worry about it at all.
Original post by Novascope
Ah you took the words right out of my mouth!
OP doesn't really need to worry about it at all.
OP doesn't really need to worry about it at all.
Why is this acceptable for guys? If I so much as text a male I get a black eye!
Original post by Anonymous
Why is this acceptable for guys? If I so much as text a male I get a black eye!
A girl in a relationship could masturbate over another guy and I'd still say the same thing?
Original post by Novascope
A girl in a relationship could masturbate over another guy and I'd still say the same thing?
Yeah but I wouldn't tell my bf that because it'd piss him off. that's the problem.
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah but I wouldn't tell my bf that because it'd piss him off. that's the problem.
Hmm true, but if they've told the other because they felt bad then it's ok. Telling them to make them upset or jealous is wrong.
Original post by Novascope
Hmm true, but if they've told the other because they felt bad then it's ok. Telling them to make them upset or jealous is wrong.
he didn't tell me because he felt bad. He just came out with it, and I was meant to deal with it. Read the OP, jesus.
Original post by Anonymous
he didn't tell me because he felt bad. He just came out with it, and I was meant to deal with it. Read the OP, jesus.
I'm not talking about your boyfriend specifically. I'm talking about my opinion on people in general in situations like this. No need to get pissy...
Quick Reply
Related discussions
- Same argument with boyfriend what do you think
- My bf's mom found out!
- muslim girl with bf
- I feel guilty
- catching bf cheating again?? - quite a long read im sorry!
- I'm married but i'm afraid my ex and his current gf has my nudes with face
- catching bf cheating - quite a long read im sorry!!
- my boyfriend hates that he wasnt my first
- My bf borrowed his mum out money behind my back
- He likes me but his gf?
- I can only make myself orgasm with one hand-is this unusual?
- Went away. Hasn’t seen me for 3 weeeks. Chooses work over me. I’m done
- Move Country for Love?
- Ex
- Need help understanding what’s wrong with this girl?
- Bad way to deal with a break up?
- Ex recommended I hookup with people to cope with the lack of human affection and it a
- Spit or swallow?
- should we break up
- Relationship problems... thoughts?
Latest
Trending
Last reply 5 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 5 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 3 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset aboutTrending
Last reply 5 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 5 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 3 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset about
