Should we break up?

Me and my boyfriend both love each other but recently a problem has been bugging us. We both want completely different career paths, we are worried this will drive us apart and we might have to break up in the future. He thinks this is very likely to happen and thinks if we break up now after a year of dating it will be easier and less painful than in a few years time when we've finished university.

Personally, I don't think we'll end up in jobs that far away, but his mind is set that it will no matter how much I try to explain.

tldr: boyfriend and i want different careers, should we stay together in case it all works out or stop seeing each other to minimize possible heartbreak

Should we break up?

Why would the different career paths mean you should break up? Most couples I know don't have the same jobs. Is it because one (or both) involves a lot of travel or working unsocial hours?

Personally, I would try to make it work but it looks like your bf has made his mind up based on what you've said in your OP.

if u love each other than it should not matter if u are doing different jobs. unless one or both of your jobs involve travelling then it might be an issue. but dont break up just go with the flow and see what happens

mine might involve travelling, that's the issue

I'm going to do a language degree which involves a year abroad which I know we're strong enough to get through however he seems to think after university I will be moving to that country which I don't want to as the pay is kind of sh*tty to foreigners. He says I'm not thinking properly and I shouldn't give things up for him when I know I'm not giving anything up. I don't know how to make him understand this

i know you dont want to hear this but it seems like he dont really want to be in a relationship anymore and is just finding excuses to breakup with u

I'm afraid you might be right. A relationship like this will only work if both sides are willing to back it.

i know you dont want to hear this but it seems like he dont really want to be in a relationship anymore and is just finding excuses to breakup with u

My thoughts exactly. His reasoning seems to be a complete non-issue and it sounds like he is trying to frame the break up as some sort of mutually convenient decision.

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