So a couple of weeks back she messaged me saying that she was pretty much going on a girls holiday to Zante and she asked if I was okay with it. (Not booked just lightly discussed, no details etc apart from location)
First of all, I will give my answer and then explain why and then tell you the key points to our conversation following my answer.
So I told her that no, I wasn't happy with it. My reason being is that before we started dating she went on a girls holiday with a different set of friends and while there she was beaten up badly by her best mate at the time. It was a completely random attack at their hotel. Anyway as I'm sure you can imagine it has had a huge effect on her, on top of her past, which before that wasn't great either. I just don't want this to happen again because it will destroy what is left of her. I know if I'm there it wont happen.
Anyway, she said she was going and didn't need my permission, saying it's because I don't trust her. I said to her that il go with her, what activity would they be doing that a lad couldn't, especially her own BF. It's just drinking and shopping..... At this point she was in a group chat with her mates and so I asked her to give me a good reason why I can't go and a lassie in there said ' the lads had their own holiday so why can't we', well that didn't include me so wasn't accepted as a reason. I have recently read the rest of the messages from the group and a friend who talked about the holiday to her and one girl in private was telling her that she shouldn't let me win and I don't trust her. Well it's not about trust at all its about caring for her.
The conversation finished with me saying that I'm just going to assume she isn't going and we can discuss it another time but she can make her choice now i've given her my thoughts on the matter.
So a few questions.....
Am I wrong in not wanting her to go without me?
She says everyone needs/have a 'girls' holiday. Do they?
If i let her go and something bad happens to her is it my fault?
Also any other thoughts are welcome