****ing lost it today and possibly broke his mobile phone. Is my anger justified?

That's great then but I think it's difficult to see calling her childish, over emotional and telling her she's humiliated herself as anything other than judging. I'm sure you do want to help though

Humungous overreaction.

Well what would you do then? Bear in mind that this wasn't the first time, like I've already explained.
It's ok if you think I've overreacted. I just want to know how other people would react.

Well what would you do then? Bear in mind that this wasn't the first time, like I've already explained.
It's ok if you think I've overreacted. I just want to know how other people would react.

Anyone can see that this behavior is childish and OP is unstable atm, I'm pretty sure OP realizes it too. And it's clear from OP's threads that their actions weren't entirely beneficial to the relationship.

Silent treatment

It's not okay. But in relationships, especially ones we are particularly invested in, we tend to do silly and childish things sometimes when we're really angry.

It's like, if we were in a nightclub and I kept grabbing your ass over and over again, even though you've repeatedly told me to stop, then you just turn around and throw your drink in my face or slap me; your behaviour is totally wrong and unacceptable as hitting people is never okay. But was your response justified?

Well....maybe so.

Doesn't work lol

It's natural to get angry sometimes. This has nothing to do with being emotionally stable or not.

Nice example as it happens a lot. Personally, I always walked away, I don't like starting arguments. I don't see the point.

But my friend threw her drink in her bf's face whilst we were clubbing and regretted it after, it caused a huge scene in front of everyone and the next day she realized she could have behaved entirely different and not let her emotions overcome her judgment at the moment. It was reckless and exaggerated.

It was justified at that time because they were both pretty drunk, but when sober it was easy to tell that the situation escalated into something stupid.

And anyway, I don't want anyone to think that getting aggressive over your partner not paying attention to you is the right way to do it. I know relationships are not easy and we are only human so we make mistakes, but it's best that we learn from them.

Silent treatment

Don't make him dinner? Do the same? Ignore him? Explain to him, 'I won't do xxx until you stop using your phone' or any other 147 things... Don't throw his phone down the toilet!!!

My boyfriend did that once.

Well basically we were out at Costa and he came on the train to visit me from Glasgow (I'm in Edinburgh) and he just wouldnt put his phone down. Eventually he did and it was fine but he was on his phone for like 20 mins and it did annoy me.

After we went home I texted him my concerns and he didnt take it too well as he got a bit angry, but in the end he saw my point of view and I saw his. He just got a bit carried away, and I just wanted a bit of attention.

He hasnt done it since. You should just talk to him about it rather than doing actions that will piss both of you off even more. Imo, you did overrreact but you arent wrong to feel this way.

Ugh this makes me look like some kind of dumb excuse of a house-wif....ugh husband doesn't it... You're probably talking about the time when I binned his dinner.


Thank you for this post, I knew that at least some people WOULD understand lol. It's easy for people to say that I overreacted but still, when someone does this to you..it really gets on your nerves doesn't it.

Yeah, it did.


What am I supposed to say to him, though? I've already asked him, a few weeks ago, whether he's still attracted to me, if he wants me to move out and so on. He reassured me that he still wants to be with me and all that crap.

Didn't seem to work before.


I would be, of course. But I know that he crossed the line, too.

Maybe OP built up all their anger and let it out today. It was a overreaction though.
I do the same thing sometimes.

Didn't work before.

I swear this was the last time I made ****ing dinner for us. This is the 2nd time he completely ruined it.
Talking to him didn't help, he's been doing this for like 2 weeks now.


That must have been annoying, especially during your holiday.. Well, I told him a number of times (just not today) and it didn't help, so..

Down the loo was a bit much, just confiscating it would have been adequate. Best apologise, try for some make-up sex and a post-coital summit to agree smart phone rules at dinner going forward..

What would you do then? I already said that I've asked him to ****ing stop doing that before, many times, and it didn't help.