Should I switch driving instructors?

I've been with this lady for almost seven months now. I think i'm just very dense to not have ditched her within the first two weeks.

She gets angry with every, tiny mistake that I make. If I take a little bit longer to move off at a roundabout she screams "WHY AREN'T YOU MOVING!? YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO GO!!!" She legitimately screams at me for absolutely everything. She will dive over and grab my wrist and swerve the car in a very dangerous way. She also slams the brakes when it's not necessary? Like, once I saw a guy on the road at the crossing and I immediately began slowing down. I would've stopped in good time, but for some reason, like twenty metres from the crossing she suddenly hit the brakes and screamed at me?

Last week was the first time I tried a manoeuvre (Yes, after seven months). It was the first time I'd ever been in reverse gear, so of course I was a little dodgy. She just kept yelling at me and being really patronising, saying things like "it's just clutch control sweetie, you've done it before" and then she told me to pull over and basically interrogated me for fifteen minutes.

I feel tears building up behind my eyes almost every single lesson, but this lesson I just couldn't hold it and and burst out crying. What do you know though, the next week she's back to being a b*tch.

I'm just finding it very hard to deal with. I dread every lesson. But the problem is that I've already booked a test in two months time. Do you think the inconvenience of getting a new instructor is worth it? And also, how do I tell my current instructor that I don't want lessons anymore? Are there any good excuses?

Sounds like you are overly emotional.

So it's not only the first time you attempt a manoeuvre, but also the first time you are reversing and you are getting upset that she gave you useful advice about clutch control and giving you encouragement saying you've used that skill before.

I've had similar experiences with past instructors and although you have a test booked soon, I'd recommend switching instructors. You can always reschedule your test. I don't think it will cost anything to change the date since its still months away. If you are so anxious and stressed with lessons, its not a good mindset to have before your test when you are already going to be nervous anyway. Lessons aren't going to stick as well as they should if you are so stressed, which is no wonder with this instructor.

I used to dread lessons with my old instructor too. I would cry before and after my lessons. I tried to grin and bear it but in the end, I just text him and said I had found an instructor who specialised with nervous drivers and I think I would be better suited with them and I thanked the instructor for all the lessons we had done together and wished him well. All I got as a reply was "OK".

Sounds like you are overly emotional.

So it's not only the first time you attempt a manoeuvre, but also the first time you are reversing and you are getting upset that she gave you useful advice about clutch control and giving you encouragement saying you've used that skill before.