Why do I only attracted alpha males??!

I have a hard time believing anyone but beta males use the term "alpha male" unironically tbh

I have a hard time believing anyone but beta males use the term "alpha male" unironically tbh

And what about the guys who use the term “beta males”?

They're the type I don't like at all. Like I see the physical appeal of them but couldn't be in a long term relationship with this type of guy because they always tend to be players and if not they're controlling/ aggressive. What I don't get is why I attract these guys. One thing that I've been thinking is I'm extremely feminine. 90 % of me is girly I'd say. Could it be these types of guys are attracted to really feminine girls? And how do I tone down how feminine I am...I feel like it's hard for me because the energy I give out is feminine I've been told before. I seriously hate dating and I'd rather date a nerd type but they're never into me.

tone done these things if they apply to you: wearing a lot of make-up, acrylic nails, hair extensions, suffocating passers-by with your perfume, 4 inch heels, low-cut tops all the time, chewing gum, lots of jewellery and platinum blonde hair. from your post you don't sound like this, but maybe htere is something you're overlooking. platinum blonde suits some people really well, so perhaps keep the hair if you like it, but tone down the make-up and nails. just trying to help.

It's not that you only attract alpha males even if beta males were attracted to you they wouldn't show it because they are scared of rejection.

masculinity and femininity are closely linked.

High masculine males tend to attract highly feminine girls and vice versa

masculine men tend to desire the most feminine girls, the most feminine females tend to prefer masculine men over feminine men or pretty boys [generally speaking]

an "Alpha" male is highly masculine at least in his behavior or he would not be an alpha in the first place.

If you are as feminine as you say you are it is no surprise they are making a bee line for you. What is surprising though is that you seem to prefer the opposite to these guys.

I never really took people who preface "males" with letters of the Greek alphabet seriously...

Lower your standards perhaps. You should be able to tell if a guy is just after you for one thing or is a bit of an arse.

Those guys aren't after me for one thing- I haven't said that anywhere. They're just controlling as in don't do this don't do that. Also I'm not sure what you mean by 'lower your standards'. Do you mean lookswise? If so, I've dated average looking guys with dominant personalities. I don't think alpha has to mean the guy is good looking... :| So I really have no clue what this has to do with lowering my standards... what an odd thing to say to someone. How would you've feel if I told you to 'lower your standards' that's rude. Would like to hear you say that to me in person. Anyway thank you for your useful response got great advice out of it. 😃

OP what you need is the guy on the middle spectrum of beta/alpha yet confident, but not overbearingly so.

I misread what you wrote, somehow I had the impression you only were after the alpha males. Sorry about that.

Who knows why you attract "alpha" guys anyway, that's quite an ambiguous question. It might just be a coincidence or just being unlucky. A lot of these so-called alpha males tend to be after one thing by the way, so that point is still valid. You need to put yourself out there more, be in situations where you meet nerdy guys, if you're into that so going to book clubs for example.

Lowering standards isn't an insult anyway.

alphas are more attracted to beta females, chances are theres something about you that says 'submissive'. you're probably nice and sweet, turn into a b itch and watch how quickly you repel them and attract beta males.