Bf calls other girls pretty on and on

My bf calls other girls pretty without an end, posting about it on social media on and on and watching their tik toks, etc. Some of these girls are celebrities. I don't want to be controlling and bad, so I didn't mention how I feel and wanted him to be himself and free, but it keeps happening all the time and I feel like I'm breaking down inside these days. I begin to think thatI don't really feel that I belong in his life. He tells me that these girls are pretty too, so he is being honest. Aoart from that, he is loving and amazing and we share so many interests. What do you think? At least I don't post about any guys and I would never do it, stating things such as "this and that guy is so hot" - because it would be obvious to me that it would be hurtful to him.

Talk to him - explain to him how these comments make you feel. If he is a reasonable, kind and caring guy like you say he is, he will acknowledge how you feel and make change. Remember: communication is key!

Hope this helps,

- Taylor

I think most couples allow each other a bit of jokey celebrity fantasy, it’s not ever likely to become a reality after all. Beyond that if you don’t like it, it’s taking the ****. Tell him if he loves you to cut it out

Talk to him - explain to him how these comments make you feel. If he is a reasonable, kind and caring guy like you say he is, he will acknowledge how you feel and make change. Remember: communication is key!

Hope this helps,

- Taylor

I just talked with my boyfriend. He said that he has a right to express concepts that are true and obvious (that is, that these women are pretty and amazing). So I said that from now on I will keep posting about the guys I know and how attractive and awesome they are to me (just to explain him what he was doing to me), and he got very upset with me when I said that. Sometimes relationship are hard. Men think that what they are doing is a statement of the fact, but when you do the same to them, they are deeply hurt. Still, I am so glad I made this point.

What was his reaction after this?

Firstly, he was upset with me that I want to post about these other men. He said I hurt him badly. I told him that now he sees how I feel. He said that he didn't mean to post about these women in the context that he is in love with them, but that they are simply pretty. And that he didn't know that he hurt me with that when posting it. Perhaps it is that men really sometimes don't understand how their actions can impact women?

So you're both on good terms with each other and are in agreement now?

It looks like that! Even though inwardly I still feel hurt about it, just because he kept posting almost every day about these women and once or twice would be enough. I feel sort of inadequate inside, but I love him and I'm happy that it is better. I want to thank you so much for helping me out!

I just talked with my boyfriend. He said that he has a right to express concepts that are true and obvious (that is, that these women are pretty and amazing). So I said that from now on I will keep posting about the guys I know and how attractive and awesome they are to me (just to explain him what he was doing to me), and he got very upset with me when I said that. Sometimes relationship are hard. Men think that what they are doing is a statement of the fact, but when you do the same to them, they are deeply hurt. Still, I am so glad I made this point.

What’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander 🙂

Aw, that's great! I'm happy to help

Good luck for the future,

- Taylor

My bf calls other girls pretty without an end, posting about it on social media on and on and watching their tik toks, etc. Some of these girls are celebrities. I don't want to be controlling and bad, so I didn't mention how I feel and wanted him to be himself and free, but it keeps happening all the time and I feel like I'm breaking down inside these days. I begin to think thatI don't really feel that I belong in his life. He tells me that these girls are pretty too, so he is being honest. Aoart from that, he is loving and amazing and we share so many interests. What do you think? At least I don't post about any guys and I would never do it, stating things such as "this and that guy is so hot" - because it would be obvious to me that it would be hurtful to him.

Yes it's usual, all guys like pretty girls. Guys are full of testosterone so they always need to release their sex drive. Genetically males are programmed to desire sex with every pretty girl they see, we would be already extinct if they didn't have this high sex drive. That's why porn is viewed by billions of men.

Yes it's usual, all guys like pretty girls. Guys are full of testosterone so they always need to release their sex drive. Genetically males are programmed to desire sex with every pretty girl they see, we would be already extinct if they didn't have this high sex drive. That's why porn is viewed by billions of men.

What's incorrect? Straight guys like pretty girls, I guess everyone agrees on this

Yes many guys do like pretty girls (I mean you still have the case that many people value things other than attractiveness way more, and it really isnt important to them), but ur completely avoiding the most ridiculous thing that u said anyway that "Genetically males are programmed to desire sex with every pretty girl they see". Im sorry, this is stupid, and its actually the opposite of what we were 'programmed to do' biologically. Like gibbons, humans have at least some directive towards monogamy, I will admit that we arent at true monogomy otherwise things like cheating wouldnt exist, but we are definitely much more monogamous than a majority of species. Saying that males are programmed to want to have sex with every attractive girl they see isnt just wrong and ignorant, its just the opposite of the truth. Unless youre an utter *******, try being in a relationship, and you really love your partner then you shouldnt just want to sleep with every attractive girl that you see

No we aren't monogamous, I'm sure you notice cheating and divorce are widespread. Monkeys aren't monogamous either, there is no male of any species that is monogamous. That's because the species must reproduce or it would be extinct, so nature programmed males to want sex with all attractive females.