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Update time: I just had a call with Alex

He hasn't had a great day, he was really tired after his assessment and the nurse that came to check on him today was insufferable, she was really rude to him, and when Alex asked her if she could please be a little nicer because he'd had an exhausting day she was like 'ugh, you borderline people are so selfish' like ??? She's a mental health nurse, she should show a little more professionalism and not perpetuate stereotypes like that!

Anyway, rant over. I told Alex my parents are still supportive and he was so happy to hear that, he started crying knowing he has a family to come home to. It means so much to him! I also said you guys were all sending hugs and he was thrilled to hear that too, because he got scared you guys all hated him So I told him he's more than welcome to post on here and he said he just might come say hi, he's bored to death anyway

More good news is he also told three other friends about his diagnosis, so plus his best friend that's four people he's told who aren't me! It's clear he's really trying to build up that support network and I'm so incredibly proud

We also talked about my exam for a bit and we both agreed we're excited to see one another again, as friends. Right now when I was talking to him I already felt different, like I was talking to a close mate rather than an ex, but idk what it'll be like when we'll see each other and live together again. But let's not worry about that for now

He's got his first exam tomorrow and he sounded rather optimistic about it

So it's mostly good things going on! And I feel so much happier having talked to him, as a friend. I really think we can make the just friends thing work

Update time: I just had a call with Alex

He hasn't had a great day, he was really tired after his assessment and the nurse that came to check on him today was insufferable, she was really rude to him, and when Alex asked her if she could please be a little nicer because he'd had an exhausting day she was like 'ugh, you borderline people are so selfish' like ??? She's a mental health nurse, she should show a little more professionalism and not perpetuate stereotypes like that!

Anyway, rant over. I told Alex my parents are still supportive and he was so happy to hear that, he started crying knowing he has a family to come home to. It means so much to him! I also said you guys were all sending hugs and he was thrilled to hear that too, because he got scared you guys all hated him So I told him he's more than welcome to post on here and he said he just might come say hi, he's bored to death anyway

More good news is he also told three other friends about his diagnosis, so plus his best friend that's four people he's told who aren't me! It's clear he's really trying to build up that support network and I'm so incredibly proud

We also talked about my exam for a bit and we both agreed we're excited to see one another again, as friends. Right now when I was talking to him I already felt different, like I was talking to a close mate rather than an ex, but idk what it'll be like when we'll see each other and live together again. But let's not worry about that for now

He's got his first exam tomorrow and he sounded rather optimistic about it

So it's mostly good things going on! And I feel so much happier having talked to him, as a friend. I really think we can make the just friends thing work

It really is I can't believe how far they've come, this time last year I first took Alex to meet them and my mum put him through hell

tell someone about the nurse she'll probably get fired. Anyway it's just a stereotype that no one believes at least not the people that care about him

Is that Paul Taylor?

Agree

Yesss, I love him so much

I'm on my phone and the app is being really ****ty so I'll read the other posts later haha

Update time: I just had a call with Alex

He hasn't had a great day, he was really tired after his assessment and the nurse that came to check on him today was insufferable, she was really rude to him, and when Alex asked her if she could please be a little nicer because he'd had an exhausting day she was like 'ugh, you borderline people are so selfish' like ??? She's a mental health nurse, she should show a little more professionalism and not perpetuate stereotypes like that!

Anyway, rant over. I told Alex my parents are still supportive and he was so happy to hear that, he started crying knowing he has a family to come home to. It means so much to him! I also said you guys were all sending hugs and he was thrilled to hear that too, because he got scared you guys all hated him So I told him he's more than welcome to post on here and he said he just might come say hi, he's bored to death anyway

More good news is he also told three other friends about his diagnosis, so plus his best friend that's four people he's told who aren't me! It's clear he's really trying to build up that support network and I'm so incredibly proud

We also talked about my exam for a bit and we both agreed we're excited to see one another again, as friends. Right now when I was talking to him I already felt different, like I was talking to a close mate rather than an ex, but idk what it'll be like when we'll see each other and live together again. But let's not worry about that for now

He's got his first exam tomorrow and he sounded rather optimistic about it

So it's mostly good things going on! And I feel so much happier having talked to him, as a friend. I really think we can make the just friends thing work

Good to hear he's reaching out to people. And I'd report that nurse, that's not ok 😡 of course we want Alex to come back and we don't hate him. We're proud of his progress. And yours Nathan! You're coping better today?

There's so, so much there to be happy about. Alex has made fantastic progress with developing a support network and I'm really happy that he knows that your family are fully supportive of him and that he'll have a family to come home to. That must mean so much to him right now. It's also good that you're making progress on your new dynamic - there's so much here to be proud of and to celebrate. We'd love to see Alex on here and to chat to him - you can't have N&A's blog without one of the stars and he's a fantastic guy who we all cherish and adore!

With the nurse, that's so ****ty ngl, but I don't think he'll get far in complaining if I'm honest. I've read a lot of horror stories about nurses and doctors in ED inpatient wards and the way they treat patients is appalling - it's a) little wonder why so many people stop complying with treatment until they're discharged as non-compliant, b) little wonder why so many people relapse, and c) why I don't want to get treatment.

But, as ever, let Alex know that we're all thinking of him, we all care for him immensely, and we're all here waiting for him whenever he wants to and feels comfortable posting.

Other than the mental health nurse and Alex feeling exhausted, that is a really positive update. As you know, we are more than happy to talk to him at any time. We definitely don’t hate him.

It’s good the hospital are letting him take his exam whilst he is in there.

Are you feeling any better now? Do you think you can make a good go of your exam tomorrow?

Oh, great news, seems that you two are making real progress...

That's wonderful news! It's awful that the nurse was so crappy to him but I'm really happy he's forming that support network ))) Can't wait to see him soon.

You can definitely make the just friends thing work, but I think you'll unfortunately find that do strong feelings come back. Everyone in my private story used to get annoyed at me because I used to always say (about my first crush who I still sort of like but not as much as I used to) that "I'm over him", then when I saw him suddenly declare I liked him again before saying "I'm over him - for real this time" - and so the cycle continued for around half a decade.... :/ We used to be friends, but then we broke up so I was a fair bit upset about that but we're friends again now Off-topic but why must we crush on straight guys? haha

That incident is still fresh in my mind. We're all loving the #Growth ✨

Do you use the app?
I use the mobile web version, works much better for me.

Good to hear he's reaching out to people. And I'd report that nurse, that's not ok 😡 of course we want Alex to come back and we don't hate him. We're proud of his progress. And yours Nathan! You're coping better today?

Alex cried when I told him about the family thing, and (unlike me) he doesn't cry a lot So yeah, it means the world to him We've been texting a bit tonight (as friends!) and he said he was trying to get some revision in but he might post on here once he's done for the night

Well, obviously not all staff are like that, out of the 10 or so people Alex has seen so far only this one nurse has treated him badly :/

True, especially since Alex was my first love (and he was so damn perfect for me!) I don't think I'll be getting over those feelings anytime soon But I know its not good for either of us to start dating again so I'm going to try my hardest not to do anything 'couple-y' with him I'm a bit nervous about him coming to my house again but we'll see how it goes!

It's great that he's starting to realise that he has a family that cares for him so much and it's good that you're chatting as friends.and that he's trying to get revision. Obviously, it'd be great to see him, but no pressure.

True, but in my situation, I've heard too many horror stories to even try it.

Nathan, just take it one step at a time, don't even worry about this until he gets to yours.

Hello wonderful people of TSR, how's life?
I'm not going to read any of the posts from this weekend but I heard you guys still like me so I figured I'd drop by real quick. I want to say a big thank you to everyone, for all you've done for me and Nathan - not just the other day, but ever since he made that first thread. It all means so much to me.
Alex x

Hello wonderful people of TSR, how's life?
I'm not going to read any of the posts from this weekend but I heard you guys still like me so I figured I'd drop by real quick. I want to say a big thank you to everyone, for all you've done for me and Nathan - not just the other day, but ever since he made that first thread. It all means so much to me.
Alex x

Hey man, so happy to see you here. Honestly, it's ok and don't be a stranger - we all still care about you so, so, so much and we're all here for you.

It’s really good to see you again. Of course we still like you, not sure why you would think we wouldn’t. Hope you are getting on ok in hospital. Good luck for the exams x

My current nurse can't stand me. The feeling is mutual, mind you, but it's not ideal. I'm upset because I messed up the best part of my life yadda yadda yadda, but Nathan is being his usual sweet self and he's still talking to me despite everything I did to him.

True This is all going much better than I expected

Tbh it sometimes feels like you're just looking for reasons to justify not going to therapy, but we can talk about that another day

Do you use the app?
I use the mobile web version, works much better for me.

Hahaha, I hate crushing on a straight guy! You know that nothing will ever come of it yet your heart is like 'but he's so cuuuute'

Hello wonderful people of TSR, how's life?
I'm not going to read any of the posts from this weekend but I heard you guys still like me so I figured I'd drop by real quick. I want to say a big thank you to everyone, for all you've done for me and Nathan - not just the other day, but ever since he made that first thread. It all means so much to me.
Alex x

My current nurse can't stand me. The feeling is mutual, mind you, but it's not ideal. I'm upset because I messed up the best part of my life yadda yadda yadda, but Nathan is being his usual sweet self and he's still talking to me despite everything I did to him.

My current nurse can't stand me. The feeling is mutual, mind you, but it's not ideal. I'm upset because I messed up the best part of my life yadda yadda yadda, but Nathan is being his usual sweet self and he's still talking to me despite everything I did to him.

Once it was awful, someone found out that I liked him (this was after we had fallen out) and they said to them "Hey, Andrew really wants to bum you" which made me feel really upset He knew already anyways lol (not the reason we fell out)

Hello wonderful people of TSR, how's life?
I'm not going to read any of the posts from this weekend but I heard you guys still like me so I figured I'd drop by real quick. I want to say a big thank you to everyone, for all you've done for me and Nathan - not just the other day, but ever since he made that first thread. It all means so much to me.
Alex x