Missed out on youth and too boring for girls

damn.. 😓

You know what's boring? another male annoyed that he cannot get a girl but doesn't really want anything serious so is just annoyed he can't have sex and is selfish

what have you missed out on exactly? was it your own fault?

What are you interested in? What gets you excited and engaged? I think you'll find that most people try very very hard to only talk about boring things, and don't even have very specific hobbies or passions. They choose not to be interesting, because exposing/having that much of a personality feels somehow undignified and overenthusiastic. As somebody who is interested in a ridiculous number of things, does plenty, and can make (subjectively) witty conversation on a lot of topics, I'm only even slightly interesting to a very specific type of person. Opportunities increase or decrease exponentially when you gain or lose them. If you start doing something, perhaps it will all come together faster than you'd think, and you'd find people (some of them female perhaps) who are genuinely similar to you. I'm afraid it really is a numbers game, albeit targeted towards the demographic you want to get to know.

I'm into photography, music, aviation, TV shows, politics, quizzing and gigs mainly but I'm sure there are other things. Yeah a lot of my friends only have a hobby like playing Playstation games or maybe going to the pub every now and then. There are people I know who do play down their lives to seem more modest but also others who are extremely cocky and basically brag about the most trivial achievements they've had (in their career, sexually, etc). Have a lot of stories from my photography days because I used to tread the red carpet quite a lot (met a lot of people and seen pretty unusual incidents).

I think I'm interesting but again I try to bring myself down a little so as not to seem too much of a know it all or a wise ar*e. It's probably just bad luck on my part, but I'm hoping I'll find people who aren't just following the crowd and appreciate me for the things I have to offer. In societies at university, I found that I shared the same interest in common with other members but our personalities didn't really click sufficiently enough to make a worthwhile friendship.

At 25 you definitely haven’t missed out on youth. You have plenty of years ahead of you to develop yourself into someone who girls will find attractive. I agree that dating and relationships at uni are very much a game of luck and for lots of ordinary guys it’s a struggle while all girls are chasing a handful of popular guys. It’s not your fault that girls have a very narrow set of criteria for what they look for in a guy they’re attracted to, so just because you weren’t successful with girls at uni that doesn’t reflect on your personality. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s your fault or that you need to change anything about yourself. Just because girls aren’t interested in the same things you are, doesn’t make you boring. You’re an individual with your own personality and things you enjoy, and if girls can’t see that then it’s their loss. Eventually you will find someone who has similar interests to you, but don’t chase girls who ignore you. Let girls come to you because when they do, they’ll make it pretty obvious that they’re interested in you.

I always tell guys who are struggling with girls that success is the best revenge. If a girl rejects you in favour of someone else who she’s only chasing for looks and thrills, you have to take it in your stride and go off to become the best version of yourself. Even if it takes you down the long hard road and many more years of graft than all the guys who were successful with girls at uni. Focus on your career, making money and earning those big displays of wealth and luxury because they will bring you attention from girls in the future. Bulk up your social media pages with pictures and videos to show girls that you’re living your best life, and they will come to you. When you don’t have looks or physique on your side and you’re not a roadman, this is how you will turn the tables in your favour. Don’t be afraid to work hard and take many years longer to cross milestones. Your life is a marathon, not a sprint.

I'm just slightly younger than 25 but having been through university and now getting into work, you feel like you have more obligations and things expected of you. It is harder at a younger age; was taught to be nice and respectful, etc, play the long game and the right person will come along but needless to say you realise that life doesn't always work that way. Some guys don't have the requirements for being successful with girls without completely overhauling their personality and thus losing their original selves in the process whilst a girl just has to seem open/interested and will get to experience intimacy with ease. Considering most of the girls either ignore me or talk to be polite, this is the case. Thought some girls would be interested in photography but it seems even what I think is 'interesting' is too much for them, despite me just talking casually.

That comes with age and experience as hard graft often lands you in good positions. Either way, you miss out on young love, dating, etc and it would look so weird for someone in their mid-late twenties to be hanging around people younger than them in clubs to make up for lost time. I tried making efforts with my existing friendships, but there's only so much I can do before the realisation kicks in that people don't really want anything to do with me. Maybe I could hire friends or go to some cool places and take pics there, but that would probably just attract shallow, self centred girls still concerned with popularity, looks and status. I'm working slowly to reach my goals, but I don't want to be thinking 'I won't do xyz, especially with girls until I've accomplished abc' because I'll still be in the same position that I'm in at the moment..