I´ve got the hots for my doc - Don´t judge, just advise

he would still be daft to date a former patient

I mean it's literally not that deep people can date whoever they want as long as it's consensual

I mean it's literally not that deep people can date whoever they want as long as it's consensual

I think you're forgetting that other than being a doctor, he's also an adult male - surely if he managed to get through med school, he's smart enough to decide for himself whether or not he wants to date a patient/ex-patient


even if you know he's single, I'd still bring up a girlfriend/wife in a casual way if the opportunity strikes, just because it sends a message that you're interested if you want to go for it then you can also say what u mentioned, or if you ever talk about restaurants/pubs etc, you could casually say "too bad you're my doctor cause I'd love for you to show me X (a place)"

a bit more complicated than that if you are a doctor

Not without consequences they can’t.

You’ve got the hots for him-it’s a crush.
He is just trying to do his job.

If you want to change doctors feel free but do Not expect him to return your infatuation with anything more than a thank you and/or awkward goodbye.
Just leave him be.

maybe, unnecessarily.


yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)

yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)

Again, not as simple as you think. You have no idea what might happen to the former patient in the future - they might claim the doctor raped them, or claim they were manipulated, or a load of other possibilities. It's just not worth it.

So what, if he’s not interested and I TOTALLY misread the situation, life goes on; at least I won’t regret it - I’m not gonna change my mind; all these posts don’t answer my questions how to subtly show interest; if you’ve got another opinion that’s fine but doesn’t answer my question

Yeah right I have nothing better to do than to accuse him of something that hasnt happened and set feminism back 50 years.
It’s his choice not yours and also we are all adults here and not some bitter teenager;

Yeah, no, you’re bonkers

Yeah no, you’re unhelpful

Good. You don’t seem to be understanding everyone else’s reaction and response anyways.

Well Apparently everyone can’t read or mind their own business- it’s my life and no one has a right to tell me what I should or shouldn’t do - it’s legal so yeah, actually no one has answered my question. What even makes you think that you have any right to decide what I should do in MY life Jesus

yes they can? there are no consequences if something is legal (and even if there were, there shouldn't be cause again, people should be allowed to date whoever they want as long as it's consensual)