What year are you in?
Not sure in what way that is relevant?
Clearly he does want to be with you! What is less certain is how much of an effort he is:
1) Prepared to make; 2) Comfortable with makingWhat you need to bear in mind is that wanting you as regular mate ≠ level of care you ≠ amount of effort he's prepared to make ≠ amount of effort he is comfortable making day in day out ≠ his idea of what is normal once settled into a relationship. The key is to get a grasp of how these things compare relatively speaking, together, and to determine whether the gap can be closed sustainably
Yes do, and jolly good
I know it's tricky to see it quite in this way, particularly if you're a bit snowed under and feel like your relationships with other people may be in jeopardy at times but life is a challenge and an adventure, as are relationship dynamics! Sometimes it is only by (sensibly, respectfully) working through attitudinal differences, or differing styles/approaches that people grow in certain ways as individuals and stronger bonds are formed as couples, in the spirit of gaining greater mutual understanding and of compromise
My ex has come to realise she did this with me too, though to be fair I had an attitude towards her that was only ever going to prove a source of discontent for her
From what I've read it doesn't sound like you're being wholly unreasonable, just need to ensure that your gripes don't translate into nags as that's usually an own goal in these situations