Going Through Life Without Ever Having A Girlfriend - Can It Be Done?

Why is it you feel you'll never find anyone?

Because the vast majority of women do not like dating an inexperianced by the time you are 25/26 and have never had a girlfriend you will be alientating 80-90% of women.

I recognise this and it is driving me crazy to the point of pure depression. I know I have to live like this and there's nothing I can do.

Some people on the Jeremy Kyle show may look ugly. But at least they have social skills.

I have absolutely none. And can't get a girlfriend realise that internet polling has showed me that girls wont date people over the age of 25+/30+ who are virgins, at least most them, like 60% from what I've found.

So thats most of the female population. Excellent, screwed for life. Its awful feeling like this.

Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?

In the even that you are serious, then my advice to you would be to stop whining about such a minor issue and start living life. No other person can make life important to you, only you can.

There are people in far worse situations than you. In the grand scheme of things, not having a girlfriend is an extremely minor thing.

Also, there are lots of opportunities to meet other women who wouldn't mind if you're a virgin. Of course if you focus on it, it will be a problem. But if you develop yourself, make yourself an interesting person, and have other things going for you, then the fact that you've never had sex/a girlfriend will be trivial

You think I'm not serious, I just wrote that out for fun?

Of course I'm serious I view that if I don't get a girlfriend by 25/26, I'll never have one, I thinks that well documented with internet polling that does suggest that 60%+ (i.e. more than half) would not under any circumstances date a virgin at that age.

I'd like it not to be a big deal for me, but it is because I believe it is for others, or at least research has led me to believe that.

1. What women SAY and what they actually DO are two different things

2. Even if EVERY SINGLE ONE of the women said so, then there are still the other 40% left. Seriously, there are literally hundreds of thousands of women JUST IN THE UK who would be willing to go out with a guy. It may not be easy to find these women, but they DO exist.

3. You can't live your life waiting for someone else to make you happy. YOU need to make yourself happy.

Yeah I recognise that and this is the part that depresses me, that although maybe saying its impossible to get a girlfriend after 25 of never having one is a bit extreme, its certainly very difficult and its that difficulty that depresses the hell out of me.

I totally understand your third point. I recognise I can't start this without that so yes I take your advice on this one.

Some people on the Jeremy Kyle show may look ugly. But at least they have social skills.

I have absolutely none. And can't get a girlfriend realise that internet polling has showed me that girls wont date people over the age of 25+/30+ who are virgins, at least most them, like 60% from what I've found.

So thats most of the female population. Excellent, screwed for life. Its awful feeling like this.

Ignore facts for your fiction if you so wish, ignore that it's up to you to improve yourself and that you can improve your social skills & chances. Ignore that it's about attitude rather than whether you're a virgin or not.

But please refrain from negging people who try and advise you. It's pretty rude.