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Ello, just saw your post from and replying in 2018 XD. I'm 20 right now and a virgin, never been on an official date (I did share a few moments with a girl in university for 2 weeks but I ended it beforehand because I saw her as a little sister, so I wouldn't hurt her feelings if I drag it on). Sometimes I too, wonder if I'm a loser or something like that for never having a girlfriend (officially), but you know what? You should focus on yourself more, you can do some many things without having a girlfriend, you can start that project that you always wanted to do, you can learn something new, heck, you can push your boundaries! However, if you're desperate to have a girlfriend, I highly recommend you make yourself better (I'll explain later on) and make some platonic female friends as practice. I can't say I know exactly what it feels like to be in your shoes, but I have some experience, at least in high school when people became couples left and right and I was kind of desperate. What you're thinking are negative thoughts, these thoughts, like you said causes depression and makes you have reckless thinking. Don't have them, it's not worth it. Instead of blaming genetics and Darwinism, I highly recommend you make yourself the
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You don't need a girlfriend or a partner in life at all. As a matter of fact I am 24 single never had a girlfriend or been on a date. So what ? I like it because I get to do what I want I go to the gym everyday and work out. Love it ! You don't need a gf at all stay single and remain virgin for the rest of your life 😀
Im nearly 40 never had a girlfriend and a virgin and going to end my life
Original post by Anonymous
Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?

Most ppl are average, some are good looking some are bad. If you are bad looking, just forget about love. Im the same, im gonna give up anyway, its pointless. Just exlude everything that has to do with love from ur life.
The **** is you talking about?!!!! That ain't the ****ing answer, that used to be my answer about everything, i learned to accept myself first and foremost before anybody else, trust me its all perspective, if a stupid ****ing ***** don't like you, tell her to **** off and move on, do this for yourself and you WILL see results. Seriously who the **** is anyone to decide YOUR LIFE, trust me i can 100% relate cause its my life right now, kill your negative emotions because they are to blame for who you've been up until now, stop thinking and just do, people lie about their virginity or their age or hell even penis size if that is your insecurity, do it for yourself and nobody else
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How is this even relevant?!!! I just made this account 20 minutes ago, the reason im telling the person is to get their head out of their ass and start acting, seriously people need to stop giving a **** about other people, specifically in the case that he is a virgin or not, being a virgin or not shouldn't define your life for any ****ing reason, the moment you stop pitying yourself is the moment you actually start giving yourself some personal value, please tell me a remotely good reason why people should even care if your a virgin or not
Original post by Anonymous
Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?

I am and I am personally waiting until marriage for religious reasons. However, with the addition of being a Christian a guy like you is the exactly guy I will be looking for to marry. To find a guy that hasn't had a relationship by 25/26 is so difficult but trust me there will be women out there that will not only be indifferent about your 'lack of experience' but will actually find it appealing. It seems like there is so much emphasis on having to have kissed someone and lost your virginity and be in relationships at earlier and earlier ages and I don't think that is necessarily a positive thing for society. Don't be suicidal, i'm sure with the billions of people on the planet you will find a girlfriend. You should put a time limit on yourself and you shouldn't be trying to rush into a relationship for the sake of it. But I would get out and socialise, spend time do things that you really enjoy because i'm sure you have so much to live for and you need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy being with somebody else. Nobody chooses to be born in this world and the things that will happen to you but you can choose how to react and whether you will strive for happiness.
I know i may sound harsh, but literally this was the only way i learned from my older brother, he made me realize of how i was even remotely questioning myself, why do you think you are a outcast in society? Tell me how girls would even tell that your inexperienced? Are they a magician who knows all your thoughts? No! Are you a human being right? If so, then tell me a good reason why you shouldn't be able to accomplish this small goal? Seriously stop overthinking it because its not hard, so please do yourself a favor right now and promise to yourself that you will never EVER pity yourself again, stop caring about how other people view you, the moment you do this you will realize how insignificant other people's opinions are to your life
Hey, im literally the same way, i used to read all these ******** threads saying women only like inexperienced men which ain't ****ing true, sometimes they poll this *****y non professional way of polls out of 5 or 10 women, compared to 7 billion people in the world, that ain't true, stop pitying yourself and kill those negative emotions, you want to get laid right? Go get a prostitute or to a club and do not see yourself of how you see yourself, im 18 and im a virgin and never had a girlfriend either, i thought i was gonna continue the same route as you, but im going to switch my perspective of how i view things, you should do the same
Who's side are you on? You want to help this guy or not???? If you are not, please **** off this thread because your nothing but negativity for this man
Original post by Jonathangreat
Who's side are you on? You want to help this guy or not???? If you are not, please **** off this thread because your nothing but negativity for this man

This was a post created over 6 years ago.
The guy is unlikely to be active, he won't read any contributions to this thread.
Original post by JaredzzC
This was a post created over 6 years ago.
The guy is unlikely to be active, he won't read any contributions to this thread.

Oh **** you right, but spread the message to anyone feeling like this please
I know someone that was 28 when he had his first relationship
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To the OP - if u are still here, I hope u have found a happy relationship and if not then I wish u the best in finding one
Original post by Laurence010401
I know someone that was 28 when he had his first relationship

See? Its all about perspective, its simple as this: if you want to not be a virgin then your not gonna be virgin, if you want to stay a virgin then you will, you choose
Original post by Anonymous
Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?

i feel like every person can go through their life without any significant other and i know that because i thought my sister was the nest thing i have in this world and then she passed away but i still made it so i think every one is capabale of being independant
Original post by Anonymous
Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?


25/26 and never having had a girlfriend is not old or something to be worried about. You think it's a long time but it's not really. When you're nearly 50 like me and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship, and women haven't ever found you attractive, then you can start worrying or feeling depressed. And you'll realise that 25 is absolutely nothing when you've lived an extra 25 years beyond that without anyone in your life and no possibility of anything.

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Original post by Anonymous
Ok guys I have to come to terms with something thats bothered me for a long time.

I'm a virgin, I'm 25 and I turn 26 in a couple of months. In addition I've never had a relationship either.

From my experiances, this a major red flag for the majority of women say 80-90% of them when you get to this age. Its bothered me so much that I even considered suicide on many occassions last year, but now I'm seeking councilling about it and my social life in general.

I've have always believed I am a poor set of genes and that I have simply deserved this. Social darwinism and natural selection has played its part and that I am simply not up to societies standards. I've come to conclusion that I can't have children, because I would passing on bad genes, science is certainly telling me this.

I can't get a girlfriend, and by nearly 26 I've never had one and I know by the time you get to this age you'll never get one. No girlfriend by 25, and well, you're love life is over. No women are going to want an inexperianced guy and thats understandable.

Is it this hard to accept? You damn right it is, infact its killing me inside, but after being suicidal for months about it, I realise that the only way I can imagine to stay alive is learning how to live with it and learning to accept myself.

I'm going to go through life without having a girlfriend as I'm simply too old now, I have another 50-60 years to live in this world and I've got to be able to learn to live with this fact and at the moment its ROCK HARD. I'm crying every night even now.

But science is telling that I cannot have a girlfriend or a relationship, the signs are pointing this way and I'm so depressed accepting this fact but I know I have to if there's anyway I can live on this planet for another 50-60 years successfully.

Life's just not meant to be sometimes, I didn't choose to be born in this world, I didn't choose to go through this in some ways, its natural selection playing its part and I fully accept it.

Buts its very depressing, almost like grieving knowing my life will have to be this way.

Is there any other guys who are like who feel the same way and in the same situation?

You're not alone to feel like this. I feel that way too, almost everyday. I'm 19 years old right now. But I feel deeply sad imagining myself being alone and miserable all my life. I know I'm being needy and I don't deserve to be in a relationship for now, but I feel it's never going to happen.

I constantly feel I've got nothing to offer. I'm not good looking and I'm short (5'3") and my sister has said to me this is undesirable. I've a boring personality, even my family doesn't take me seriously. But I understand why no one wants to be with me. I was bullied at school and feel no confidence. Thought of ending it all crosses my mind everyday.

I'm working on trying to build my personality and being happy with myself,but that doesn't happen everyday. I know just "being myself" isn't enough, I need to change myself completely. Idk if this thinking is rational or not, I'm being honest about how I feel. Natural selection seems very true for me.

But I truly hope that you won't be like this for many years. I wish you'll get what you want and will be happy :smile:
I feel the same way too. I'm 19 years old but imagining myself living all alone and miserable makes me feel depressed. I know I'm being needy now and I certainly don't deserve to be in relationship at the moment, but I feel I'll never be good enough to be loved by someone. I always feel I have absolutely nothing to offer. I don't look good, my height is just 5'3

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