Passive Aggressive Emotional Guy Friend - Getting Rid?

Thanks I don't want to say something like "I know you fancy me," though, because knowing his personality he'll probs just deny it outright and create a bit of a song and dance/argument about it?

Do you reckon just saying/insisting "leave me alone" point blank would work?

Also, how did you get the guy to stop staring at you?

Passive aggressive people are often master manipulators and deceivers... they'll twist the conversation into something else and make you feel like whatever you're saying is irrational and uncalled for.

Ok then maybe, 'you are acting like you fancy me and it is awkward'

He won't stare at you once you've spoken to him about it unless he is a real creep because he will be worried you will say something again!

Get him on his own though, you need to be blunt but there is no need to be mean. In my experience if you are nice about it nothing changes, but there's no need to make them feel awful over it!

Hmm OK

What if he tries to come up with a reason/say he isn't really staring, though, like SuperDuperNoob suggested?

Then just say well that is how you have been acting, it is awkward and I want you to stop. If you aren't prepared to do that then I would appreciate it if you would avoid me because you passive-aggressive behaviour makes me feel uncomfortable.

Stick to your guns!

People like him will for example, turn things around - so if he felt you up and you call him out on it he will say 'I can't believe you called me out on it, you make me feel like a pervert' - turning himself into the victim. So you just need to stand up for yourself and if he starts doing that let other people know how uncomfortable he made you feel and what he said and did. Anyone reasonable will take your side

Ah OK, thanks, I think I know what to do now - will say something along those lines and just be really matter of fact Fingers crossed it'll be dealt with soon

He hasn't gone as far as feeling me up lol... more creeping from a distance xD

The guy on my course who was like that started feeling everyone up (Except me because I pulled him up on his passive agressive behaviour early) , so I'd nip it in the bud

Holy crap that's weird. I'd have punched him even if I saw him doing it to a complete stranger

Yeah and then when my friend asked him to stop touching her legs he had a go at her for making him feel like a pervert!

Typical of someone like that Did he wheel out the whole "u would not do that if i looked like brad pitt!!!" argument too?

No but he did pull her up because she is always hugging her two male best friends. So clearly he should be allowed to feel up her legs!?

Ah, OK. Makes sense, I guess - he can be charming when he wants to, so while I don't fall for that crap I don't have time to waste either. I know if I give him an inch he'll try to take a mile. Thanks!

Jesus ****ing Christ, creep logic eh

Would have punched and probably kicked in the balls/10

No problem! I think you'll be fine now, if you don't make the mistake of giving him that opening.

Off topic question - If this happens, can the guy report you for sexual assault?

Yeah, I will do, thanks

I'm quite well-read on law as I'm switching careers to become a lawyer - if someone of either gender feels you up without consent, then yes it is sexual assault. Self-defence, however, is not if that's what you meant.

Would it be too harsh to just go over and say "why are you staring at me," do you reckon? I don't want to come off as oversensitive as there are usually mutual friends around whenever we see each other, having said that they are the kind of guys who condone that kind of behaviour! Thanks btw

Go to the post office and ask for a friendship termination form or FT69.

I don't know what kind of answer you expect, just let the guy know how you feel and offer an ultimatum.